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No Jerks Allowed: The Complete Lawyer Vol. 4, No. 1 Goes Live

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Now . . . . now . . . . now . . . . now?

Yes, indeed, folks, NOW is the time to take the wrapper off the Complete Lawyer Vol. 4, No. 1:  No Jerks Allowed!

Listen, this is one classy legal journal.  Glossy but deep.  I'm ridiculously honored to have a place in this issue -- though who could reject the only "I was a jerk" . . . ahem . . . a jerk-in-recovery . . . confessional?

Kudos to Don Hucheson and his great staff for putting this issue together.  I'm in the middle of putting up the winter issue of the r.kv.r.y. literary journal and I know, deep down in the marrow of my tired old bones, just how time-consuming a project getting an on-line journal up and running can be!

Focus on the Behavior, Not the Person

To avoid re-typing, but not re-peating, myself, I urge each one of us to take a look inside when we talk about bullying behavior, quoting the following comment I first made on Bob Sutton's fine blog below:

As the single "confessional" of bad workplace behavior to appear in the Complete Lawyer issue on workplace bullies, I note the following:

As the Stanford Prison and Stanley Milgram's "Authority" experiments long ago proved, we are all capable of -- and in certain circumstances inclined to -- bullying behavior.

When we demonize others (i.e., tag them s "jerks," "bullies," "A-holes," and "sociopaths") we exempt ourselves from potential wrongdoing, create a class of evil "others" and unwittingly further enable people and their organizations to deny bad behavior by decent people.

If, instead of ridicule and demonization, we can "out" the bully in each of us, those who are ashamed of themselves instead of guilt-ridden about their behavior, will be better able to admit their wrongdoing, make amends, move toward reconciliation with their fellows and re-join the rest of the fallible human beings amongst us.

I suppose you could say that I am an jerk in recovery. As such, I make it a part of my daily "program" to "take my part" in any rancorous dispute, promptly apologize and make amends for any harm I have caused without seeking (but nevertheless hoping for) forgiveness.

I make every effort to practice "restraint of tongue and pen" but forgive myself my human fallibility when I fail and move forward.

For more on the profound differences between guilt and shame, take a look at my article on restorative justice, "
Shame by Any Other Name." 

 

Divide and Conquer: Negotiating the Writers' Strike Past Impasse

(image from Wikimedia Commons:  the Power of Free Content Media)

When you've got several to hundreds of bargaining partners, there is always a moment where the optimal negotiating move is to cut separate deals with those who are weaker (less well-equipped to continue the battle); stronger (better equipped to take a negotiating loss); more favorably disposed to your position or less fixed in their bargaining posture than other members of the opposition coalition.

No one wants to be the last man standing.

In this town of hyphenates (actor-producer-director) it makes sense for the embattled WGA  to cut separate deals with those whose hyphenated descriptions include the word "writer."  So it is that Forbes.com reports via Reuters in Striking writers union reaches deal with Letterman -- and the New York Times reports in Letterman and Writers Guild Reach Agreement -- that Letterman's "writer-friendly" company gave the writers "what they are asking for [because] they deserve it, and we’re happy to give it to them.”  (quote from NYT)

Forbes.com excerpt below:

Negotiations between the WGA and major studios on a new contract covering 10,500 striking film and TV writers broke down Dec. 7, but the union has been pursuing separate talks with smaller, independent production companies.

The WGA's Hermanson told Reuters that talks between the union and Letterman's company had produced a "full, binding, independent agreement" that includes provisions for paying writers for work distributed over the Internet.

Compensation for Internet content has been the main sticking point in talks aimed at ending the WGA strike, now in its eighth week.

Several other late-night television hosts, including Jay Leno and Conan O'Brien of NBC and Jimmy Kimmel of ABC, are planning to resume broadcasts of new episodes on Jan. 2 without their writers. 

Mediating Past Impasse: Humility and Diagnostic Questions

It is the last Friday before the New Year and the Mediation is entering Hour Five.  I am cajoling, wheedling, blandishing, coaxing.  Mr. Lee's attorney is doing a little begging himself.  But we are unconvincing.    

Mr. Lee wants to settle the case.  Every smoke signal he has sent up during the day indicates that he has sufficient resources -- and more importantly -- the committed desire, to settle this troublesome lawsuit for a figure that is very close to that which the Plaintiffs have signaled they would be willing to accept.

And yet . . . . . . Mr. Lee is back-sliding.  We importune and he gives us less authority than we had an hour ago.  

We are failing to persuade.  And we are out of arguments.  The settlement proposal now on the table makes economic sense. It's good for business.  Trial is approaching.  The chances are less than even.  Everyone is taking a loss.  If it's wrong or unfair, it's no worse than a random car wreck.  One of life's bad accidents, best left in the past.  Trial is worse than uncertain, it portends a bad -- and avoidable -- result.    

Still.  The money is coming off the table.  I am missing something.

"I'm missing something," I say. 

Mr. Lee looks at me with interest for the first time in hours.

"What are you missing?" he asks.

"I don't know.  I only know you want to settle the case and that I'm not helping you do that right now.  Can you tell me what I can do differently or better?"

Mr. Lee returns to an old theme -- a horse I'd assumed we'd beaten to death several hours ago -- the reason his co-defendant should be contributing more than it has resolutely refused to do. 

Finally it occurs to me that Mr. Lee does not believe I am negotiating hard enough for him.

"Do you think I'm not negotiating hard enough with your co-defendant?"

He lights up.  "Yes."

"O.K.  If you give me a counter, I'll work harder to get more money from Mr. Co-Defendant," I say, realizing that I haven't been pressing Co-Defendant as hard as I could be.  

My mediator friends are cringing.  "Don't press!!" I hear them saying, "explore."  

Back to Plaintiffs' caucus.  "We're at impasse because Mr. Lee insists his his Co-Defendant knew the facts that all the documents show it didn't." 

Plaintiff lights up.  "That's true," he says, offering a detailed and credible account that contradicts the written record but dovetails with Mr. Lee's account.  

Hour Six.  Case settled with another small, but significant contribution by Co-Defendant.

New Year's Resolution:  Ask more diagnostic questions.  Citation?  Leigh Thompson's Mind and Heart of the Negotiator, page 77:

"[L]eft to their own devices, negotiators fail to ask diagnostic questions.  For example, only about 7 percent of negotiators seek information about the other party's preferences during negotiation, when it would be dramatically helpful to know such information."

What were Mr. Lee's "preferences" here?  That I press his co-defendant to put more money of its own on the table.  Did Mr. Lee need more money?  No.  But his preference that I exert a greater effort on his behalf was so strong that my failure to do so caused him to retaliate -- against me -- by giving me less authority in hour five than he'd given me in hour four.  I genuinely believed I'd done the best I could do.  I was wrong.  By how much?  Not much.  The point is, there was more value to be gained and I had given up.  

New Year's Resolution:  Proceed with Humility.  Citation?  Sri Chinmoy, i.e., the Oneness of the Eastern Heart and the Western Mind.

The moment we use the term 'help', a kind of egocentric idea enters into us. If we help someone, that means we are in a superior position. When we help, we feel that we are one step ahead or one step higher than the ones that we are helping. But if we serve someone, then we offer our capacity with humility, on the strength of our loving concern and oneness. So let us use the proper term, 'service'.

Make the DMZ an International Peace Park? More Hope for the New Year

(Tony Karp's photo:  DMZ 1964 from the Techno-Impressionist Journal

Hear All About the Greening of the Korean DMZ with Doug Noll and Hal Healy at 11:00 a.m. (PST) on New Year's Eve Day . 

I've been working a little over the holidays.  You know, the work I got my ticket punched for in 1980; and, for all the complaining you hear from lawyers, the work that is by far the easiest (read:  most certain) way to make a living of them all:  practicing law.

Don't worry, legal practice will never again be my day job.  Still, I'd been seriously thinking . . . . what have I been thinking for the past three years????  I LOVE this legal research treasure hunt and the war-game strategizing that goes along with it.  And it pays by the hour, not just the time I spend "on stage."

To answer that question this morning, a power greater than me -- things as they are *-- delivered this into my mailbox.

The Korean De-Militarized Zone splits North and South Korea by a band of land that has been untouched by humankind for 53 years. During that time, nature has restored the DMZ to a pristine state of wilderness and has seen the resurgence of many endangered plant and animal species. What would happen if the DMZ were transformed from a symbol of war and strife to one of peace, sustainability, and ecological preservation? More importantly, what if preservation of the DMZ as a national park becomes part of the common ground that can resolve the many differences between the two Koreas? Hall Healy, vice-president of the DMZ Forum, has dedicated himself to making the Korean DMZ a symbol of hope, peace, and environmental beauty. Join us in a conversation about an amazing unsung project that could finally bring peace to the Korean Peninsula. 

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My dad, never one of my major spiritual guides, taught me this when I was in middle school:  "Things as they are giveth and things as they are taketh away, blessed be things as they are."  Thanks Dad! 

Transforming the World, One Conflict at a Time: Mediators Beyond Borders Founding Congress

Founding Congress – February 15?18, 2008, St. Malo Retreat Center, Stanley Hotel Estes Park, Colorado (download .pdf flyer above and circulate among your friends and colleagues)

Resolve to Make a Difference in 2008 at the Mediators Beyond Borders Founding Congress

with Kenneth Cloke, JD, LLM, Ph.D., President of Mediators Beyond Borders

Daniel Bowling, Esq. Co?Author “Bringing Peace into the Room”

Erica Ariel Fox, JD Harvard Program on Negotiation Insight Initiative

Special Guest Stars: John Paul Lederach, Ph.D. & Herman Weaver, Ph.D. “Peacebuilding: Songs from the Road”

For MBB Members and Professionals Working in Dispute Resolution: Lawyers, Judges, Peace?builders, Mediators, Arbitrators & Psychotherapists, & Systems Designers, Educators and Students.

Topics for Discussion:

? Why Mediators Beyond Borders?
? Strategies to Help Save the Planet
? Current & Planned Projects
? How to Form Project Teams
? Potential Partners & Funders
? MBB Chapters & e?Support
? Learning What Skills are Needed
? Training, e?Library & Conflictpedia
? Indigenous/Environmental Disputes
? Culture, Prejudice & Bias Reduction
? Role of VORP & Restorative Justice
? Bias Awareness
? Truth & Reconciliation Processes

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Experience, Strength and Hope as My (Semi-Secular) Holiday Arrives

(In the face of global violence and inhumanity, it is easy to think: We are so few, so imperfect, and so poorly prepared, while the problems we face are so vast, multifaceted and ingrained - how could we possibly make a difference? The real question however is: How can we stand by and not try to help, no matter how imperfect our efforts may be? ~ Leonard Marlowe)

This semi-secular Christmas post will address a few  matters we're not supposed to discuss in "polite" conversation -- like politics.  Having the freedom to discuss what is truly important to me is one of the reasons I blog; one of the reasons I went to law school; and, one of the reasons I find mediation more suited to my personality and politics than legal practice. 

In case no one's noticed, this blog is dedicated to the non-violent, collaborative resolution of disputes.  To some, this makes me and my blog naive.  Others see an old lefty who, in late middle-age, has accomodated herself to liberal democratic political causes.    

Though I have acted politically in the past (the anti-Viet Nam War and Women's movements) and donate to the expected list of  politcally liberal (the ACLU; Amnesty International; Environment California; the Human Rights Campaign) and charitable organizations (the Downtown Women's Center; the Union Rescue Mission; friend Laurel Kaufer's Mississippi Mediation Project; Mediators Beyond Borders) my politics are more personal than intellectual.  In other words, I make a very bad political debater because I quickly run out of "data" to support my political "positions."

How I Got Here

I think I made an unconscious decision early on (perhaps the first time I suggested -- at 5 or 6 years old  -- that my family send a CARE package to hungry children) that my default position was going to be compassion.  Even if that meant I would sometimes be "ripped off."  I thought compassion was worth the price -- though my parents -- who would have been required to pay for a 5-year old's passions did not agree.

Since that time, I have added other default positions that constellate around compassion, including non-violent dispute resolution; cross-cultural understanding (tolerance); international cooperation; civil rights; universal medical care; stewardship of our physical environment; and, a genuine attempt to meet the first of the U.N.'s Millennium Deveopment Goals --to reduce by half the proportion of people living on less than a dollar a day and reduce by half the proportion of people who suffer from hunger.  

What I Hope for All of Us

We live in a cynical age, which is not the age in which I came of age.  I came of age in an era of hope.  I'd like to think we are capable, as a nation, of entering that age again -- one tempered by hard experience, yet willing to risk a renewed commitment to the principles of peace and justice.  

As an election year approaches with (too early) primaries, my Christmas wish is that we recall a time when the future seemed so full of potential that we were willing to wish for harmony, abundance and justice for everyone.  When was that time?  I was just a child, and yet the nation -- half paranoid; half full of optimism -- elected to our highest office a man willing to lead the nation toward goals I simply assumed to be "American."

Here, is an excerpt (see full addresss here) from that man's Innaguaral Address to the nation.  John Kennedy's speech of  January 20, 1961.  

[L]et us begin anew--remembering on both sides that civility is not a sign of weakness, and sincerity is always subject to proof. Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate.

Let both sides explore what problems unite us instead of belaboring those problems which divide us. .  .  .

Let both sides seek to invoke the wonders of science instead of its terrors. Together let us explore the stars, conquer the deserts, eradicate disease, tap the ocean depths and encourage the arts and commerce.

Let both sides unite to heed in all corners of the earth the command of Isaiah--to "undo the heavy burdens . . . (and) let the oppressed go free."

And if a beach-head of cooperation may push back the jungle of suspicion, let both sides join in creating a new endeavor, not a new balance of power, but a new world of law, where the strong are just and the weak secure and the peace preserved.

All this will not be finished in the first one hundred days. Nor will it be finished in the first one thousand days, nor in the life of this Administration, nor even perhaps in our lifetime on this planet. But let us begin.

In your hands, my fellow citizens, more than mine, will rest the final success or failure of our course. Since this country was founded, each generation of Americans has been summoned to give testimony to its national loyalty. The graves of young Americans who answered the call to service surround the globe.

Now the trumpet summons us again-not as a call to bear arms, though arms we need--not as a call to battle, though embattled we are--but a call to bear the burden of a long twilight struggle, year in and year out, "rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation"--a struggle against the common enemies of man: tyranny, poverty, disease and war itself.

Can we forge against these enemies a grand and global alliance, North and South, East and West, that can assure a more fruitful life for all mankind? Will you join in that historic effort?

In the long history of the world, only a few generations have been granted the role of defending freedom in its hour of maximum danger. I do not shrink from this responsibility--I welcome it. I do not believe that any of us would exchange places with any other people or any other generation. The energy, the faith, the devotion which we bring to this endeavor will light our country and all who serve it--and the glow from that fire can truly light the world.

And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you--ask what you can do for your country.

My fellow citizens of the world: ask not what America will do for you, but what together we can do for the freedom of man.

Finally, whether you are citizens of America or citizens of the world, ask of us here the same high standards of strength and sacrifice which we ask of you. With a good conscience our only sure reward, with history the final judge of our deeds, let us go forth to lead the land we love, asking
 His blessing and His help, but knowing that here on earth God's work must truly be our own.

Lawyers Appreciate Year-End Appreciation Memes

Stephanie West Allen at Idealawg and Julie Fleming Brown at Life at the Bar launched their Second Annual Lawyers Appreciate Meme Tag yesterday, asking tagged attorney bloggers to post on professional appreciation.

Stephanie tagged me, Gini Nelson at Engaging Conflicts, and Diane Levin of Online Guide to Mediation.

The idea is simple  Legal bloggers end the year with a note of gratitude by writing a post on what lawyers appreciate and passing the meme baton along to lawyers whose blogs you appreciate.  

I'm going "off ADR campus" this year to tag lawyer-bloggers Anne Reed at  Deliberations; Diana Skaggs at the Louisville Divorce Law Journal and Law School Professor Antoinette Sedillo Lopez at the Best Practices for Legal Education Blog.

Why I Appreciate Gratitude Meme Tag Games

"Gratitude lists" are one of those self-help techniques at which I used to scoff.  That was in the Pynchon Cynical Age, which lasted far too long past adolescence.  During what I'll call late adulthood, I learned the following about gratitude lists:

  1. they bring you back to reality when you're about to whine about how much more other people are making than you; how unlucky you are to have been "raised by wolverines" (h/t to Nathan Lane); how much better you could be doing if you were (pick one) younger, older, slimmer, prettier, male, female, caucasion, African American; European; better schooled; better loved; more athletic; less prone to anger, accomodation, submission, etc., etc., etc.
  2. they remind you how frankly embarrassing it is to complain about life circumstances when you have the privilege of practicing law.
    • incoming anecdote -- I once took a few minutes in a group session to complain about life with my law partners at a time when I was making more money in a single year than my parents -- at my age -- had made in their lifetimes.  After I'd completed my tale of woe du jour, a willowly young Latino woman stood up and said she "really related" to what I was saying because the previous year when she'd been making a documentary about her South American villiage, it was destroyed by the eruption of a nearby volcano.
    • Point taken -- If I've not being grateful, I'm not paying attention
  3. gratitude lists are most beneficial when you least want to make them, i.e., when you'd really rather nurture a sense of injustice.  Today, whenever I'm in danger of doing that, I recall the documentary film maker and my self regard transforms itself into the desire to be of service to others.  

The Year-End Appreciation Meme Temporarily Releases Litigators from the Bondage of Complaint

  1. whether we litigators were contentious and complaining before we started practice, we had no choice but to complain after we began litigating -- since all litigation literally commences with a "Complaint."  
  2. when people used to ask me what it was like to litigate, this is what I said:  every morning someone who is being paid extremely well gets up with the sole purpose of making me wrong; of proving that I am stupid, disingenuous, ill-tempered, dishonest, of bad faith or just generally evil.  I, in turn, get up with the same purpose.    
  3. Gratitude meme tags release us, ever so briefly, from the emotional and spiritual assaults of the daily giving and receiving of complaints.

Gratitude Meme Tags Allow Me to Work Collaboratively with Other Legal Bloggers

This benefit of the meme tag needs no explanation.  I can only say that legal bloggers do all of us an extraordinary service every working day.  They freely share, without expectation or hope of recompense, the increasingly complex and arcane knowledge they have gathered and learned at depth.  I used to mistrust Witkin, as I was taught by my first mentors to do.  Today, I confidently turn to the legal blogosphere to obtain legal niche theory and practice from some of the best minds working today.

You just can't beat that.

Happy holidays and a great New Year to every legal blogger sharing his or her expertise with the rest of us without any reward other than the occasional inspirational year-end meme tag.

Follow the Money: 10 Most Significant Coverage Cases of 2007

(right $5700 by Andrew Magill)

Thanks to David Rossmiller for posting Maniloff's Top 10 coverage cases of 2007 -- the .pdf of Mealey's Insurance-Palooza - 7th Annual Look At The Year’s Ten Most Significant Coverage Decisions there and here.

There's nothing more important to the settlement of litigation than knowing where the money to settle it can be found.

Premature Citation: Don't Open '08 Complete 'Til After Christmas

(photo by Chris Kirkman)

f/k/a wins the "class act" of the year award with the following apology for directing its readers to the incomplete 2008 edition of Complete Lawyer.  This was all our fault and not that of f/k/a at all.  Nor was it the fault of Stephanie West Allen, who also picked up my premature post about the Complete Lawyers' Office Bullying issue, and to whom I owe a huge debt of gratitude for connecting me to the Complete Lawyer in the first place. 

Below, f/k/a's explanation of why you'll want to wait until '08 to follow the links to Complete Lawyer 2008.  


(Dec. 21, 2007): The f/k/a Gang apologizes for any confusion. When we enthusiastically told you about the focus on office bullies in the upcoming issue of The Complete Lawyer yesterday, we forgot that the crew at TCL is still in the final stages of putting together the entire edition. That means that the links provided below will indeed take you to the featured articles, but you can't yet navigate around the TCL site from those pages to see the entire Jan-Feb. 2008 version of The Complete Lawyer — because it doesn't yet exist. The complete package won't be available until the first week of January. So, please enjoy this preview, but blame the f/k/a Gang, and not Don Hutcheson's crew at TCL for links that take you to their prior editions, and not to the understandably not-yet-ready-for-blog-time Vol. 4, No.1.



Some Vioxx Attorneys Seek Judicial Relief from Ethical Conundrum

Claiming that the $4.85 billion Vioxx Settlement improperly "allows [defendant] Merck to dictate the advice a lawyer will offer" to clients, some Vioxx plaintiffs' attorneys have asked the federal judge overseeing the deal to "keep some of their clients outside the settlement while still allowing other clients to accept it."

Under the global settlement agreement reached by lead counsel in New Orleans last month, "if the lawyers want any of their clients to receive money from the settlement, they must recommend the deal to all their clients." 

Those attorneys resisting the requirement are saying not only that the provision "would prevent them from offering the best independent judgment for each client" but that "[a]greeing to the provision might open them to future lawsuits from disgruntled clients."

All quotations above are from Alex Berenson's New York Times article, Some Lawyers Seek Changes in Vioxx Settlement. 

Previous commentary on the ethics of this provision by legal bloggers, including our own thoughts here, can be found at the Legal Ethics Forum here, the Wall Street Journal Law Blog here, FindLaw here; the Mass Tort Litigation Blog here;  Drug and Device Law here (but please don't call them for comment); Texas Lawyer here; and, Pharmalot here.

Have you ever seen such high level free legal advice in your lifetime?  And it's not even redundant.  So, no, Concurring Opinions, I don't think we've saturated the legal blogosphere.  I think everyone is just taking a deep breath to sort through the talent and find their niche.

In the meantime, have we stopped being troubled by the advertisement of pharmaceuticals direct to consumer (image above) as if they were laundry soap? 

The Complete Lawyer to Out Workplace Bullies

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UPDATE:  THAT WAS ME SHAKING THE PACKAGES UNDER THE CHRISTMAS TREE WHEN I DIRECTED MY READERS TO THE JANUARY '08 ISSUE OF THE COMPLETE LAWYER ON WORKPLACE BULLYING.

Assuming everyone is far more patient than I am (instant gratification takes too long) your patience will be amply rewarded if you don't open links to the incomplete Complete Lawyer of 2008 until the first week of January.

Apologies to Don Hutcheson and crew who put out the best looking online legal journal on the block!

The upcoming issue of the Complete Lawyer (Vol. IV, Issue 1) will be outting the bullies among us . . . . but, please don't open until after Christmas.  

My article Why Lawyers Are Unhappy… And Make Others Unhappy, Too is a personal confessional of workplace misbehavior. In fact, it's just about as personal as you can get without committing professional suicide.  But hey!  Somebody had to fess up and when you're  the jerk in the workplace, it's you who is usually the last to know.  As my regular readers know, however, there is a happy ending to this one.

I feature my own article first here only because I can.  The other authors addressing the issue of workplace bullying should be front and center because they are luminaries in their fields.  Take a look at:  

The No Asshole Rule by Robert Sutton, Professor of Management Science and Engineering at Stanford University

 

 

 

How to Spot and Deal with Jerks by Julie Fleming Brown, author of the renowned Life at the Bar blog

 

 

 

Create a Blueprint for a Bullying Free Workplace by Gary Namie, North America's foremost authority on Workplace Bullying

 

 

 

Defining and Legislating Bullying by Garry Mathiason, vice chair of Littler Mendelson, and, according to the National Law Journal, one of the 100 most influential attorneys in the nation

 

 

 

Yes, There are Ways to Reform Workplace Jerks by Employment Practices Specialist Allison West

 

 

 

In this crowd, I feel like Zelig!

 

Negotiating Peace: a Transformative Model

While I was studying for my LL.M at the Straus Institute (Pepperdine School of Law) I took a class in "Faith Based" (or Second Track) International Diplomacy from an extraordinary man named Brian Cox.

Because I am, at best, a material-spiritualist -- one who lets the material world lead them to spiritual apprehensions -- I'm afraid I was a thorn in Professor Cox's side.    

Despite the fact that religious faith is at the core of Cox's approach to international conflict resolution, the substance of his course was not at all difficult to reconcile with my own approach to conflict resolution.  In fact, I'd go so far as to say that I would not be the person I am today; nor have the same ability to cross religious and cultural divides, had I not been exposed to Cox's theory and practice.

So it is with great pleasure that I pass along the press release for the upcoming publication of Cox's new book,   Faith-Based Reconciliation -- A Moral Vision That Transforms People and Societies.

Press release below:   

Santa Barbara, CA – November 28, 2007 – As the bridge of hostility between East and West is broken, societies slowly emerge from an oppressive system and savor their first taste of genuine freedom. However, the absence of any compelling moral vision for these societies is preventing them from defining a stable way of life. Author Brian Cox proposes Faith-Based Reconciliation to build bridges across religions for people to realize that shared spiritual values can point the way forward to a more harmonious future.

Written by an experienced practitioner in the field of faith-based diplomacy who has worked in some of the world’s most troubled regions, Faith-Based Reconciliation begins with the premise that moral vision plays a key role in shaping individuals and communities. Its primary message is that the Abrahamic moral vision shared by Jews, Christians and Muslims, which is embodied as faith-based reconciliation, is a fresh approach to intractable identity-based conflict, an alternative to religious extremism, and an ancient paradigm needed for the twenty-first century.

This book focuses on eight core values that comprise a moral vision of faith-based reconciliation: pluralism, inclusion, peacemaking, social justice, forgiveness, healing wounds, sovereignty, and atonement. Each of these represents a principle. However, each forms the foundation for policy and program development that will heal and sustain societies. These eight core values are designed to be kept in dynamic tension with each other. They assume the centrality of relationships whether between two individuals or two nations. They assume a dynamic integration of transcendent faith with politics without imposing a particular sectarian or institutional perspective.

The Abrahamic tradition, moral vision, and mission began as a promise to one person. God promised Abraham that he would be a blessing to all nations and that it would take on the form of tikkun olam—to heal, to repair, and to transform the world. Abraham had the courage to take that first step on a long journey. The baton of faith-based reconciliation has been passed by people of faith from one generation to another.

This book is a must read for today’s policymakers and for political, religious and social leaders who wish to find an effective and innovative approach to ending conflict, whether in the national or international level.

About the Author

Canon Brian Cox is an ordained Episcopal Priest and a trained professional mediator who serves both as a pastor and as a senior official of a Washington, DC-based non-governmental organization devoted to faith-based diplomacy. He has been a pioneer and practitioner in integrating faith and politics in the international context. Over the course of his work in Africa, Asia, Europe, Latin America and the Middle East , he has developed the strategic paradigm of faith-based reconciliation as a fresh approach to identity-based conflict, as an alternative to religious extremism and as a moral vision for societies.

Insurance Resolutions: Keep the Settlement Monies, Avoid the Release and Sue for Fraud

(right:  '94 quake damage)

Though I've participated (as co-mediator) in the settlement of some of these Northridge Earthquake cases, I'm going to let the insurance bloggers address the wisdom of this decision -- just sent down by the California Court of Appeal in Village Northridge Homeowners Association v. State Farm Fire and Casualty Co.

As the Court itself acknowledged, under its holding,   

a plaintiff could settle a disputed insurance claim, keep the money paid, and then sue for fraud (rather than on the released claim) if it was fraudulently induced to settle the claim by a misrepresentation of policy limits.

We must say we're surprised by this holding and imagine the insurance carriers are as well.  The "parade of horribles" raised by State Farm, however, was dismissed as exaggerated by the appellate court, stating that the

consequences of applying this principle are not dire. Indeed, to avoid them, the insurer need only avoid misrepresenting policy limits when it settles claims. We seriously doubt insureds who settle their claims can be expected thereafter to assert groundless claims of misrepresentation of policy limits on a routine basis.

Is this a case of bad facts making bad law?  Or am I missing something? 

I'd love to hear from Declarations and Exclusions blogger George Wallace on this one!  George?

Settlement Offer as to Claim No. 1 Admissible to Prove or Disprove Claim No. 2

Another reminder of the narrow scope of Evidence Code section 1152's protections has just come come down from California's Second District Court of Appeal in Zhou v. Unisource Worldwide, Inc. here

Before discussing the Zhou holding, we remind our readers that in California, at any rate, the differences in protections between mediated settlement communications (absolute protection from disclosure) and non-mediated settlement communications (limited protection) make it imperative that counsel clearly specify, in writing,  whether the settlement conference they are about to attend is a  "mediated" conference -- and hence protected by Evidence Code section 1119 -- or a "non-mediated" conference -- and hence protected only by Evidence Code section 1152.

Federal Practitioners should see the footnote below and read Irvine, California IP attorney Sheila Swaroop's excellent ABTL Newsletter article The Surprising Uses of Prior Settlement Negotiations under FRE 408 here.

Though I'm aware of no case law on the topic, I'll go so far as to say that an attorney's failure to make this distinction will likely be found to fall below the applicable standard of care in the event the client suffers harm as a result.  

The Zhou Holding

Briefly, Plaintiff, who was injured in two separate automobile accidents, sent the insurance carrier an offer to compromise -- which was just barely brought within section 1152's protections -- for Accident No. 2.  During the trial of Accident No. 1, the defense proferred into evidence the settlement offer made for Accident No. 2 to prove the invalidity of the claim arising from Accident No. 1. 

In holding that the trial court erroneously excluded that correspondence from evidence, the Court of Appeal explained:

[I]n this case Zhou’s letters to State Farm regarding his purported injuries
from the March 1, 2004 accident were not offered to disprove the merits of the claim under negotiation, but rather “to show the invalidity of a different claim.” *

The entire case is well worth reading as a refresher if you're about to send a settlement demand, attend an MSC or pursue mediation.

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*   The Court also cites federal law to the same effect -- Broadcort Capital Corp. v. Summa Medical Corp. (10th Cir. 1992) 972 F.2d 1183, 1194 [federal rule barring admission of evidence relating to settlement discussions does not preclude evidence of settlement of different dispute; “the evidence was not admitted to prove the validity or amount of the ‘claim under negotiation’”]; Towerridge, Inc. v. T.A.O., Inc. (10th Cir. 1997) 111 F.3d 758, 770 [“[r]ule 408 does not require the
exclusion of evidence regarding the settlement of a claim different from the one litigated”].)

"Trying" Your Case to the Insurance Adjuster in Mediation

(photo courtesy of xetark)

Thanks to Geoff Sharp at Mediator Blah Blah for hipping us to How to Build a Mediation Presentation That Will Make an Insurance Adjuster’s Sphincter Tighten by Bob Gerchen, jury consultant and author.  Excerpt below.

CONSIDER YOUR AUDIENCE 

In a mediation. . . [w]e're not playing to jurors. We’re playing to the person who holds the purse strings. The insurance adjuster. Does an insurance adjuster care that your young client was Phi Beta Kappa? Not likely. Is an insurance adjuster emotionally affected because your client’s legs were burned off him while he sat half in and half out of the SUV that had just rolled over on him? Doubtful.

Insurance adjusters have seen the worst of the worst. They see horrific injuries every day. They see “perfect” plaintiffs every day. It doesn’t move them. What do insurance adjusters care about?

Insurance adjusters care about one thing more than anything in the world, even more than money.

Risk.

When an insurance adjuster is listening to and watching a mediation presentation by a plaintiff, she is asking herself, “What is my downside here? What is my risk level?” And she is constantly weighing the risks of going to trial versus the costs of settling with money that the insurance company would prefer to hold on to for a little longer.

YOUR OBJECTIVE: COMMUNICATE THE RISK

When you start putting together your mediation presentation, instead of asking, “What’s great about my case?” ask yourself, “If I were the adjuster, what about this case would freak me out?”

THE ELEMENTS OF THE SPHINCTER-TIGHTENING PRESENTATION

Their Witnesses and Documents

The first answer is bad defense witnesses. . . . As much as possible, tell the story using defense witnesses. Pull out the parts of depositions that show blazing incompetence, indifference or best yet, bad motive. As much as possible, include documents generated by the defense to bolster your case.

Adjusters don’t typically see witness testimony before trial. If they’ve got some awful witnesses, make the adjuster painfully aware of it. Start and end with their horrible witnesses. 

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WHAT ABOUT MY PLAINTIFF?

[T]he plaintiff should be a coda, just a quick notice to the defense that they won’t be able to score big on “your guy.”

The big dollars don’t lie in the beauty of your plaintiff’s life and the tragedy of his loss. The big dollars lie in the adjuster’s uneasiness about the risk. And if you can get the adjuster’s sphincter to tighten, her hands may well loosen.

Disputing Settlement: Clash Over Distribution of $7.8 Billion in Enron Settlement Funds

If the generation of $7.8 billion in settlement monies for Enron's fleeced investors doesn't give you a deep sense of year-end justice being done, you haven't seen the documentary chronicling the rise and fall of one of the most arrogant corporate economic criminals in American history -- ENRON -- The Smartest Guys in the Room.   (see the trailer here)

These monies were not, however, torn from the entrails of ENRON's corpse nor taken from the pockets of its principals. These funds, as Forbes.com reports in Judge Mulls $7.8B Enron Settlement Plan, "come mostly from such financial institutions as Bank of America, JPMorgan Chase & Co., Citigroup and Canadian Imperial Bank of Commerce," companies that lawsuits allege "worked with Enron [and] participated in the accounting fraud that led to the bankruptcy of the once-mighty energy company."

The Settlement Plan? 

According to the AP article carried by Forbes.com,

Most of the money will be distributed to investors and shareholders who lost money on securities directly issued by Enron or its predecessor companies. A small portion will go to those who got securities from Enron-related entities.

In general, the plan is calculating shares of the settlement fund based on a formula that factors in such things as when a security was bought or sold, the purchase price paid and the type of stock that was bought.

To be eligible for the settlement, investors and shareholders needed to have bought Enron or Enron-related securities between Sept. 9, 1997 and Dec. 2, 2001. 

The Dispute?

With this much money at stake and so much damage done to investors, you can imagine that there is not simply one dispute but many.  

Robert Finkel, for instance, an attorney representing investors who have already won between $60 and $80 million from financial firms in securities suits was quoted as saying

It's our money. . . There should be no commingling of money."

And Stephen Neuwirth, representing another group of investors, has objected that the plan prevents shareholders who received their Enron stock as gifts from filing claims.  

For a copy of the plan and other explanatory materials for Enron Shareholder Class members, click here.

Negotiation, Communication and I.Q.

(image: Kpelle woman harvesting rice links to article on Liberian-Americans)

I was just talking about class and privilege over at the Professional Women's Network Blog the other day. Then, since ideas seems to come in pairs, our favorite social science writer Malcolm Gladwell wrote about culture and IQ in the New Yorkers -- a topic that's blown the top off  more than a few academic institutions in its time (see None of the Above:  What IQ Doesn't Tell You About Race).

You Say Potato, I Say Paring Knife

Before getting to the negotiation point, here's the meat of the Gladwell article.  In explaining why IQ scores predictably creep up every generation, Gladwell discusses the category of questions that show the biggest gains -- similarities.  

The big gains on the [IQ test] are largely in the category known as “similarities,” where you get questions such as “In what way are ‘dogs’ and ‘rabbits’ alike?” Today, we tend to give what, for the purposes of I.Q. tests, is the right answer: dogs and rabbits are both mammals. A nineteenth-century American would have said that “you use dogs to hunt rabbits.”

“If the everyday world is your cognitive home, it is not natural to detach abstractions and logic and the hypothetical from their concrete referents,” Flynn writes. Our great-grandparents may have been perfectly intelligent. But they would have done poorly on I.Q. tests because they did not participate in the twentieth century’s great cognitive revolution, in which we learned to sort experience according to a new set of abstract categories.

In Flynn’s phrase, we have now had to put on “scientific spectacles,” which enable us to make sense of the WISC questions about similarities. To say that Dutch I.Q. scores rose substantially between 1952 and 1982 was another way of saying that the Netherlands in 1982 was, in at least certain respects, much more cognitively demanding than the Netherlands in 1952. An I.Q., in other words, measures not so much how smart we are as how modern we are.

Cross-Culutral Pairings

How modern indeed!  Take a look at what happens when the IQ mavens go to "primitive" societies with a "similarity" test.

[When researchers gave] members of the Kpelle tribe, in Liberia [the IQ] similarities test, they took a basket of food, tools, containers, and clothing and asked the tribesmen to sort them into appropriate categories.

To the frustration of the researchers, the Kpelle chose functional pairings. They put a potato and a knife together because a knife is used to cut a potato. “A wise man could only do such-and-such,” they explained.

Finally, the researchers asked, “How would a fool do it?” The tribesmen immediately re-sorted the items into the “right” categories. It can be argued that taxonomical categories are a developmental improvement—that is, that the Kpelle would be more likely to advance, technologically and scientifically, if they started to see the world that way.

But to label them less intelligent than Westerners, on the basis of their performance on that test, is merely to state that they have different cognitive preferences and habits.

So, how does this help us negotiate?

First of all, the research Gladwell cites powerfully reminds us that everyone does not think in the same way we do.  The assumption that they do is likely responsible for our failure to ask diagnostic questions when to do so would dramatically improve our negotiation position (see Negotiating Past Impasse, noting that "only seven percent of negotiators seek information that would reveal the other parties' true goals and aspirations when it would be dramatically helpful to do so.")

Second, and more importantly, it reminds us that we don't really have any idea what our negotiation partner is thinking; what he's after; and, how we might satisfy one another's true needs and desires.  

So here's our negotiation tip of the week

Act like every one of your bargaining partners is a member of the Kpelle tribe, sorting the subject matter of the negotiation according to functionality instead of abstract categories.  Remind yourself that just as you're rating your opponent's intelligence as sub-par, he's already decided that only a fool would be categorizing the facts in the way you are.

With those stark differences in mind, what's a negotiator to do?

Ask questions. 

"What are your goals?  Why do think I'd be willing to enter into an agreement that appears to be so foolish to me?  What metric are you measuring your benefit by?  What metric do you imagine I'm applying to mine?"

These are the type of questions that take the struggle out of the negotiation -- that relieve you of the chore of overpowering your negotiating partner into accepting the "wisdom" of your offer. 

Don't miss the opportunity to ask that crazy Kpelle why he paired a potato with a knife and jump at the chance to explain why you set it down next to the yam.

Strategic Planning for the Flat Screen TV Negotiation

As Jeffrey Gordon over at the Software Licensing Handbook cogently explains in his post on Strategic Thinking, "when faced with a negotiation [it is important to] sit down and ponder your moves."

If you come out guns blazing, the other side is probably going to respond in kind. Which means that you’re setting the stage for an aggressive negotiation and will be fighting for things along the way. On the other hand, too soft, and you’ll give up everything. This is where some of the experts obviously advise differently. One camp says “play stupid” and seek what you can get through self-depreciating behavior. Another camp (pardon the pun, but it’s actually Jim Camp) says that you should always “Start with No” as a way to encourage discussion.

The net result of Strategic Thinking is an ability to not only see what your path could be, but to also see where your opponent is going to move. For if you play a win-win strategy against someone with a win-lose strategy, who do you think is most likely going to lose? If you’ve considered your various options and thought Strategically, you’ll know how to respond.

Strategic Planning:  Negotiation "Style"

Though Gordon talks about planning ones negotiating style ("hard" or "soft") I always lead with a style that is "hard on the terms and soft on the people."  As a matter of negotiation "style" I also

I also recognize and attempt to guard against my weaknesses which are:

  • impatience; and,
  • discomfort when the negotiation appears to be but rarely has actually has reached impasse

Strategic Planning:  Setting Ones Reservation Price; Planning  the Number and Timing of Concessions; and Deciding Which Information Will Be Strategically Deployed 

My own pre-game strategic planning primarily consists of setting my "reservation price" (the number I will not go below); projecting the planned timing and number of concessions; and, deciding on the nature and timing of information disclosures that I believe will enhance my bargaining position.  I also make a decision, in a case like this, whether I wish to aggregate or divide the several items subject of the bargain.

So What Was the Actual Plan?

We were lucky to have both several items to negotiate and several preferences for each negotiated item.  What were they?

  1. the television itself;
  2. the $100 HD cable;
  3. the furniture on which to place the television; and,
  4. sales tax, which for reasons I'm not entirely clear about, sales people generally are happy to "cut" as part of any retail purchase.

We decided that I would be the primary negotiator with Mr. Thrifty as my back up. 

I knew there was a lot of "fat" in the furniture.  The purported "retail" price for the "wood veneer" television stand was $598, "reduced" to a "sales" price of $398.  Having checked online prices for this piece if furniture, I knew that at least one online store claimed that its "retail price" was $349 --  $50 more than the Ken Crane's claimed "sale" price and that we could purchase it online for $285, $110 less than the store was offering.  

Though we were unable to obtain comparables for the Toshiba -- tagged at $2598 -- we knew we could buy a comparable Samsung for $2300 over at Fry's Electronics in Burbank

Mr. Thrifty and I decided that our reservation price (or bottom line) was $3,000.00 for all of the items listed above, which would be $366 less than "retail."

Although I firmly believe we could have negotiated a deal at that price, we concluded the deal $150 short of our "reservation price."  I'll explain why that happened when we cover time management and perception of power in our final post on negotiating consumer purchases.

Negotiating Associate Life in the AmLaw 100: Writing Writing Writing

(photo Dear Santa by caro wanders)

O.K.  So you're not really going to ever be a trial lawyer unless you leave that job like you said you would after paying off your student loans.  Don't be seduced by the $$$ if you want to keep that promise.  Keep your fingers off the year-end bonus and drive the Toyota for a while longer.  Even though your friends are beginning to drive Porsches.  

While you're paying off the student loans by working 60-70 hours a week, you're unlikely to be doing anything they do on Boston Legal -- like appear in Court or even "first chair" a deposition for a couple of years.

What you're going to be doing is writing, mostly.  Thinking creatively.  Brainstorming.  Strategizing.  Researching. 

If that's not a lot of fun, take the first train out of AmLaw One Hundred Station to save yourself years of semi-smoldering unhappiness.

That's the 20-20 hindsight at any rate.

So here's what you'll need for your first and second years -- some more really good writing advice, which I stumbled over today while procrastinating that post about negotiating the purchase of the flat screen TV and last night's mid-life (who do you know who's lived to 110?) crisis at the Twisted Sister concert on the Sunset Strip.

WRITING ADVICE from creative here.  And, once again, How to Write:  A Memo from a Curmudgeon which bears reading by all lawyers from time to time -- once a year is best. 

There's other good stuff on the Language in Common site, like the  "Dear Bosses" memo from creative that I've posted before.  Although its the bosses, not the first year associates, who should read this, you might work up the courage to say a few of these things in a nice way to make the management/labor thing more tolerable until you become management and learn it's just a shift  from one set of irritations to another.  And harder, really, being management, than being labor.

But I know you won't believe that for another twenty years, when I'll be scooting around town on my Segway, waving happily to all the other boomers in retirement.

But seriously.  I pretty happily practiced law for 25 years and even miss it from time to time.  Especially the winning part.   I'm into collaboration now.  But I'll never regret the losing cases and motions because it wouldn't have been much fun winning unless my chances had been less than even, now, would it?

But please.  Enjoy the winter holidays.  And have a GREAT 2008!

(photo:  Segway tour by Bill Tracey)

Negotiating Middle Age: the Judicate West Holiday Party; Sky Bar and Twisted Sister

 

(photo from Judicate West's home page) 

A terrific holiday party at Judicate West last evening with the best holiday hors d'ouvres of the season, mediator friends and new and old clients.

But that was just the beginning . . . .

 

 

 

. . . . then . . . .

 

 (Day 1 with the Forbes.com Business and Financial Bog  Network:  Sky Bar at the Mondrian Hotel --think Entourage -- the only bill I reached for quickly enough -- and Twisted Sister at the House of Blues on the Sunset Strip

(Jay Jay French and Dee Snider Talk with Entertainment Weekly About Twisted's Christmas Album)

 

Mosh Pit (photo of "Dead Fish" concert by Luiz Alberto Fiebig) . . . .

 which makes me  . . . . .

. . . . worry about the "children" getting hurt

AND of course

. . . .potential liability.

 

 

 

Sharon Gitelle, the woman who will make the Forbes.com Business and Financial Network . . . .

ROCKIN' . . . . .

Trust me on this one.

 What all this has to do with negotiating middle age in the next post (along with the promised post on negotiating the flat screen HD TV purchase)

Friend AAA Arbitrator Deborah Rothman to Speak at Arbitrating the Mega Case on 8 February 2008

Our good friend the arbitrator and mediator Deborah Rothman (of the AAA and Judicate West) will be speaking with other distinguished arbitrators and attorneys at an all day ABA DRS seminar Arbitrating the Mega-CASE -- Surviving and Succeeding in the Mega-Arbitration on February 8 of next year (just around the corner!) 

 

Deborah will be speaking on Prehearing Issues – Early Management, described by the brochure as follows: 

Mega-arbitrations involve extensive discovery, probably from multiple parties as well as non-parties to the arbitration, and may involve out-of-jurisdiction issues and E-discovery. This type of case will also involve significant pre-hearing motion practice. This session examines the management of the mega-arbitration after the case has been successfully initiated, through pre-hearing procedures, up to the first hearing day.

While studying for my LL.M. I spent some time "externing" with Deborah and observed both her case management sessions and her arbitration hearings.  All I can say is that I wish I had known her when I was in practice and had been able to talk some of my clients into arbitrating their disputes before an arbitrator like her.

This looks like a "can't miss" arbitration seminar -- click on the link above for the full schedule. 

Settlement of the Week: $57.5M in Sprint Nextel Shareholder Class Action

Forbes.com channels AP's report on the recent settlement of the Sprint Nextel securities class action in Judge OKs $57.5M Sprint Stock Settlement

This hefty settlement follows recent predictions  that settlement values of securities class actions will decline. 

In its October post Will Settlement Values Decline?, for instance, we learn from the Risk and Governance Blog that at least one analyst (NERA): 

predict[ed] that settlement values may start trending downward after reaching a record high this year. The median settlement during the first six months of this year was $9 million, up from $7 million in both 2006 and 2005, according to NERA.

The NERA researchers base this prediction on recent declines in the median investor loss, which historically has been a “strong predictor” of settlement values. For cases that settled in 2007, the median loss was $381 million, less than the $407 million median loss for cases that were resolved in 2006. This trend is also apparent if one looks at new lawsuit filings. The median investor loss for cases filed in 2007 was $240 million, down from $265 million in 2006 and $340 million in 2005.

These trends are early hints that recent filings might not lead to continued increasing average settlement values in the future, although it is still too early to know which of the recently filed cases will result in settlement as opposed to dismissal,” the NERA researchers explain
.

Meanwhile, Forbes reports that that the Court in the Sprint Nextel settlement set aside 27.5 percent, or $15.8 million, for plaintiffs' legal fees, as well as an additional $2.2 million for plaintiff expenses.

For the full Forbes article, click here.


Settle It Now Joins the Forbes.com Business and Finance Network

(Notting Hill Gate by Paolo Margari)

What is that advertisement at the top of Victoria Pynchon's Negotiation Law Blog?

It's the first of several ads to be delivered on this site by Forbes.com.

Why is she junking up her blog with advertising; does she need the $$$ that badly?  . 

It's true that I will earn some income (a few dollars a month?  a couple of hundred?  I have no idea). 

But I'm not in it for the ad revenue.  

Why then?

Believe it or not, this blog is not merely a marketing device.  It is also an attempt to spread the good news of collaborative problem solving and interest-based negotiation to whomever those skills might help in their business and personal lives.  

Learning interest-based negotiation and mediation skills radically changed the quality of my life, my work and my personal relationships.  I don't just want to share that, I'll go all the way to say I have a mission to share that. 

O.K., But What Does This Have to Do With Advertising from Forbes.com

I'm joining the Forbes.com Business and Financial Network to bring the Settle It Now Negotiation Blog to as many people as might find it useful, most particularly business people and attorneys.

Forbes.com's homepage has -- drum roll please -- 20 million visitors a month. 

I have 5,000-6,000 visitors a month. 

I'd like to have more.

I'm truly hoping that the Forbes.com network will provide a greater array of information and advice to my existing five to six thousand monthly visitors and that the addition of my blog to the network will get the central message of this blog to more people.

What is your blog's central message anyway?

Here it is.  

A community thrives on collaboration and reciprocity.  All communities -- local and global -- thrive on collaboration and reciprocity.  And individuals living in collaborative and reciprocal communities are happier and healthier than those who don't.

The rest is implementation.  And practice.

So, let's see how this Forbes.com community can further that goal. 

Hop on board!  The train is getting ready to leave the station. 

But don't worry about being left behind.  We're a local so you can jump on any time you're ready!! 

Chapter 3, in which we pause our HD-TV negotiation for a conversation with not one, not two, not three, but four satellite television provider representatives

(photo Destiny Calls by Neal Sanche)

Is there any negotiation more frustrating than the one you conduct on the telephone with people who won't give you their last names, have no "authority" to do or say anything that deviates from their script and who you are finally connected to only after enduring the "go ahead, try to choose the right numeral to fit your problem" automated phone system.

I'll include some of these conversations in the series on negotiating the purchase of the flat-screen T.V. 

This post, however, is an emergency act of mercy for anyone who is upgrading their DirecTV non-HD DVR service to either Dish or DirecTV HD-DVR system.

Information Gathering Cut Short

After at least one full hour of searching online, I found this clear, easily understood, linked resource entitled My Dish Network vs Direct TV Experience.  This advice page links to a side-by-side comparison of the HD-TV-DVR "deals" being offered by satellite providers here at the DigitalTVDojo Daily Deal Monitor.   The "Deal Monitor" links to the "secret" web deals that you will not be offered on the telephone or the internet unless you find them. 

But that's not all. 

Gathering Information about the Dish Service

Preface:  After the Dish representative dodged the following question four times, I gave her one last chance, telling her she would lose my potential business unless she answered it.  She didn't.  I called DirecTV for the second time that day.

The question:  will you provide me with a 5 LND dish free with the HD service?

What the question means:  I have no idea.  My rocket scientist neighbor told me that's what I needed.

Back to DirecTV

If you, like us, are existing DirecTV customers, you cannot get the "deal" linked above online.  If you sign in to your account (or create an existing user account) the only "deal" available to you is to pay $299 for a new HD DVR (which you understand you are leasing, not purchasing).

Here's who you have to call to get the same deal being offered to new customers:  The Customer Retention Department.

How do you get there?  Press 0 even though you're not given this option, which may not directly connect you to a human operator, but will lead you to one more quickly than any other means I tried.

How I Got to the Customer Retention Department

I spent a lot of time appealing to DirecTV's "higher value" of customer service and its interest in retaining customers.  I said the words "Dish" alot.  I said, you're not a monopoly and you have the power to lose a customer today.  That sort of thing.

But all this effort bought me was access to the Holy Customer Retention Department. 

So don't bother negotiating your way there.  Just ask to be directly connected.

The Deal the Customer Retention Department Will Give the Existing Customer

(please let me know if you do better -- Thad Employee # U2179 represented to me "as a matter of fact" that this was absoutely the best deal any existing customer could get on an HD-TV DVR upgrade.  I'm hoping no one proves to me that Thad misrepresented the available deals because I'd like to continue to believe that when directly asked this question, my negotiating partner will either say -- I cannot guarantee that -- or tell me the truth.  I'll provide a link for misrepresentations during negotiations and negotiation ethics later).

Here it is: DirecTV will:

  1. provide you with an HD-DVR for $199
  2. it will install the needed 5 LNB dish
  3. though the cost of HD service is an additional $9.99/month, DirecTV will waive that fee for the first year ("that's a $120 value" says Thad)
  4. free installation
  5. free handling and shipping

That's it.  Happy shopping and thanks to all the selfless TV service bloggers who helped along the way.

 

 

 

 

 

 

We Prepare to Negotiate the Flat Screen HDLCD TV Purchase

Jeffrey Gordon has been running a series of posts entitled Five Fundamental Skills for Effective Negotiation in his Software Licensing Handbook Blog.   Unlike most litigators like me and Mr. Thrifty, Mr Jeffrey is a negotiator by trade.  So his advice is just the type of "on the ground" guidance  litigators -- and purchasers of consumer products -- can really use.

Not surprisingly, the first of the Gordon's "Five Fundamental Skills for Effective Negotiation" is Information Gathering

Before plunging into the HDTV negotiation, I give you the bone marrow of Gordon's advice, the meat of which can be found at the link above. 

 

As the first "information gathering" step, Gordon advises us to play 20 questions with ourselves

to determine the boundaries of []our desire. If [we] do this stage of Information Gathering correctly, [we] will have a deep understanding of []our true need as opposed to []our “wants.”

Or, put another way, [we] will know []our “must have’s” versus []our “like to have’s.”

And, if [we]’re already thinking a few steps ahead, this becomes important . . . in making concessions. [We'll] ‘give up’ []our like-to-have’s in favor of keeping a better outcome for our must-have’s.

I have to tell you that the poet in me loves the phrase -- the boundaries of our desire.

But I digress.

Research

Mr. Thrifty and I divided the purchasing task strictly along gender lines, meaning that he did all the product research, primarily on CNET (which he recommends as the best source of expert advice)  with a heavy emphasis on consumer reviews at sites such as Amazon and Pricegrabber (Toshiba vs. Samsung). 

I'm not certain I would have had either the heart or the stomach to decide between LCD and Plasma; 720 vs. 1080p; or 60 vs. 120 Hz refresh rate. If you don't have your own live-in tech-guy or gal, find one now.  I'm told these things make a genuine difference.

Though online prices will inevitably be better than those found on in-store price tags, visits to your local merchants are necessary to get the look and feel of the product you wish to purchase.  And Mr. Thrifty says that you want to be able to return your TV or lodge complaints with the store.  So despite his storied thrift, he'll always pay more for the benefit of dealing with a local vendor.

Even though each sales person has his or her own preferences (and degree of candor) when you talk to enough of them, certain themes begin to come through the sales pitches.  And you can look them in the eye.

Speaking of sales people -- you'll see that we end up buying from our favorite sales person because we liked him and felt he was being a straight shooter about the pro's and con's of our dream set. Before we began our final negotiations for the purchase, we'd already decided we were going to give him our business.  Even if it cost us more money.  Because it's never only about money. Ever.

Valuing Your Own Idiosyncratic Preferences

I have to admit that it was almost impossible for me to tell the differences in picture quality among the various options Mr. Thrifty had narrowed our choices down to.  Still, I had my own set of preferences and desires, as did Mr. Thrifty.  Rational or not, this is your purchase and you can value or devalue anything you like.  

We, for instance, have a lot of light coming in the back of our small T.V. room.  We needed a non-reflective screen.  Period.  Mr. Thrifty, for reasons all his own, loved the TVs with the swivel bases.   Acknowledging that this particular preference wasn't very "rational" he said he'd be willing to let it go.  But hey!  He really really liked the swivel.  So onto our "must have" list it went.  Finally, neither of us cared much about 42 vs. 46 inches.  The technology was worth more to us than size -- we preferred the newest technology over the larger TV. 

Then Of Course We Asked the Neighbors

This may or may not be an option for you but my regular readers will know that we live next door to a rocket scientist.  Actually, an astral orbital engineer.  Because neighbor Tony reads spec sheets for recreation, of course we consulted with the neighbors.

Narrowing the Choices

You'd have to ask Mr. Thrifty for the skinny on the specs.  At Magnolia in Santa Monica yesterday, the HP guy said "well, this LED LCD screen is better than the non-LED."  LED LCD?  I thought my head might explode.  Unlike me, Mr. Thrifty already knew about the LED/non-LED option and had already chosen one or the other.  I still don't know which one we bought.    

At last our research was done.  It was Toshiba instead of Samsung, a 46 rather than a 42 inch screen, LCD, non-reflective, 1080p with the Hz thing. 

Tony hipped us to the $100 cable necessity (another potential bargaining point) and we lucked in to a name for the TV stand in the Sunday Electronics inserts.  So we checked its online price, which was $300 less than that being offered by our preferred vendor.  We knew we didn't want to buy that furniture online because all of the customer reviews said it always arrived damaged.  And although the salesman may well have known that -- he didn't know that we knew that.    

Next step:  strategic thinking.

How to Negotiate the Purchase of Your New Flat Screen HD T.V.

(the Toshiba 46LX177 46" REGZA™ Cinema Series® 1080p LCD HDTV with 120Hz refresh rate; our vendor - Ken Crane)

I have long complained that high definition television is the triumph of form over the "content" our 500-plus channels deliver to us. 

Nevertheless, the February 2009 deadline to go digital is, more or less, looming.  Not to mention the fact that today is our first wedding anniversary and the seventh day of Hanukkah.  Christmas is just around the corner.   

That confluence of events provided the rationale, the justification for me and Mr. Thrifty to finally bite the H.D.T.V. bullet and negotiate the purchase of technology that would likely cost us more than each of us paid for our first automobiles.

Before putting your non-bargaining toes in consumer negotiations, you might want to take a peek at the U.K Telegraph article The art of being a winning negotiator, our knowledge of which we owe to Diane Levin at the Online Guide. 

There's not a lot that's new in the Telegraph's report of a five-day Oxford negotiation program for seasoned professionals -- first "identify what you want, what the other side is likely to want, what you can discover from the public media [and then] build relationships with the other party, picking up intelligence which couldn't be gathered in advance such as his personality, mood, style of negotiating, constraints."

What struck me as noteworthy was the article's expressed surprise that people 'at the top of their game' professionally would feel the need for a course in negotiation.  

This is not news to someone like me who realized on my first day of mediation training that I'd been negotiating the settlement of litigation for 25 years as crudely as Cullen, director of the Oxford Programme, said sophisticated business people tend to do. They "negotiat[e] fairly crudely," he said, and "hadn't realised how they could do it so much better."  

As I sit at home today waiting for delivery of the TV at the top of this post, I'm going to take my readers on a step-by-step guide to buying the high-end technological gee-gaw of your choice this holiday season.  Or, because we don't watch television all that much, the mid-market Flat Screen High Definition LCD T.V., with accessories and furniture.  

High-market, mid-market or low-end, one negotiation is as easy or tough as another depending upon your negotiation skills.  And to tell you the absolute truth -- those lawsuits with the least in controversy are generally the most difficult to negotiate.  

But I digress. 

Step No. 1:  Preparation, next.

Rounding Up Power and Persuasion

(Power by Michael Nagel)

Thanks to Personal Injury Law Roundup No. 39 for mentioning our piece on the persuasive power of the WGA Strike Video.

Although I mediated many cases as a litigator and trial lawyer, it wasn't until I began serving as a mediator that I realized how much trial attorneys and mediators have in common.  

Yes, yes, I know -- trial lawyers are trained assassins and mediators are neutral facilitators of negotiated resolutions.  And yet we both use the power of persuasion to assist us in "selling" our wares to our respective audiences -- trial lawyers to juries and mediators to the disputants and their counsel.

I'm a regular reader of trial blogs for this reason and hope that trial attorneys and mediators will continue having a dialogue about those matters that are of common interest to them.

Nice roundup guys and thanks again for including me! 

We Don't Need No Stinkin' ADR Providers?

It wasn't actually John Huston's Treasure of the Sierra Madre, but Mel Brook's Blazing Saddles -- where he parodies the scene above -- in which the bandits famously said "we don't need no stinkin' badges." 

Are we just as confused about the role played by mediation providers?

This is what you hear from litigators:

I don't hire a mediation provider, I hire a mediator.

This is what you hear from mediators:

People don't hire me because I'm on the JAMS or ADR Services or Judicate West panels.  People hire me because they know me.

And yet, we are on ADR provider panels and they do provide us with business just as we provide them with our "book." 

I'm not going to deconstruct the misconceptions here, only to provide you with an excerpt from the address given by Elizabeth Birch transcribed here -- Meditation Providers No Longer Add Value -- courtesy of Geoff Sharp and The Political News You Need to Know

 

It provides just a few of the reasons you might want to call my ADR provider, and that of my colleagues Jay McCauley, Michael Young, and John Wagner, at Judicate West, the next time you want to schedule a mediation or arbitration. 

 

 

Administration

Now, here is the nub of the problem. Many of you feel that you don’t need your mediations administered … “I can do that myself. Why should I let a Mediation Provider take some of the mediation money, if I can do it myself?”

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The Angriest Lawyers on the Block: a Rorschach Test

From the Simple Justice Blog -- a Rorschah test.

And while we're on the topic of funny lawyer ads, see the ABA Journal's article Funny Lawyer Ads are No Joke in New York by Martha Neil, teh Journal's online legal affairs writer here.

More Settlements in the Priest Sex Abuse Cases

(image:  St. John the Baptist by Br Lawrence Lew O.P.)

Ann McGlynn of the Quad City Times reports on the most recent priest sex abuse settlement Complex matrix to help determine diocese payouts here

You'll note that in both of today's settlements, there are non-monetary "justice" terms by which the defendants agree to provide direct means of emotional satisfaction to the injured parties.  

In the priest sex abuse case, the diocese has not only agreed to provide counseling to survivors (non-monetary restitution) but also to "giv[e] survivors a chance to address the parish in which their case of abuse occurred"  (an act of atonement and restorative justice).  That old standby revenge (retributive justice) has also been included in the diocese's settlement -- each parish agreeing to publish the names of all known abusers.    

The University of Colorado settlement includes what a friend of mine calls a "living amends."  As I understand a "living amends," the reptentent party not only makes restitution to the best of his/her ability, but also agrees to take (or refrain from taking) some activities in the future for the purpose of enacting the apology

In the Colorado case, the University "agreed to hire an adviser to monitor compliance with federal laws governing equal treatment of women and add a position in the university's Office of Victim Assistance."  That's a "living amends," atonement and restorative justice.

Below, as promised, an excerpt from the Quad Cities report of the priest sex abuse settlement. 

The diocese and its insurance company, Travelers, reached a settlement last week with the committee representing the 156 sex abuse claimants in the diocese bankruptcy. It totals

$37 million.

The settlement includes non-monetary agreements, including the diocese agreeing to provide counseling for all victims, giving survivors a chance to address the parish in which their case of abuse occurred and publishing the names of all known abusers.

And while some Catholic organizations may pay toward the settlement, it also releases all from liability.

Davenport joined four other dioceses — in Tucson, San Diego, Spokane and Portland, Ore. — in filing for bankruptcy. It filed in October 2006 after Michl Uhde of Davenport won a $1.5 million jury verdict for abuse he suffered at the hands of the now-dead Monsignor Thomas Feeney. The diocese was set to go to trial on a second case shortly after it filed for bankruptcy protection.

It has already paid more than $10 million in settlements to 45 victims

Settlement of the Month: University of Colorado to Pay $2.85 Million for Sexual Assault

(right:  CU football stadium by Kit Seeborg)

The Philadelphia Inqurier picks up P. Solomon Banda's AP report University Reaches Sex Assault Settlement here.  Excerpt below.  

DENVER - The University of Colorado has agreed to pay two women $2.85 million to settle a lawsuit alleging they were sexually assaulted by football players and recruits, school officials said yesterday.

The allegations had sparked a football recruiting scandal at the school, prompted broad university reforms, and led to a shake-up of its top leaders.

University spokesman Ken McConnellogue said the school also agreed to hire an adviser to monitor compliance with federal laws governing equal treatment of women and add a position in the university's Office of Victim Assistance.

The agreement came two months after an appellate court revived the lawsuit.

Hank Brown, the university president, said agreeing to the settlement was "a difficult decision, painful in some ways, but it's my sense that it was in the interest of the university."

The Power of the WGA's Strike Video: Why We Fight

(image links to Amazon.com)

We've talked before (here) about Columbia University Professor Charles Tilly's work on reason giving "Why?" (also see Malcolm Gladwell's article on Tilly's work here)

Reading Tilly is one of those events that forever changes the way we look at the world -- in this case -- why we too often seem to be talking past one another.   

The reason Tilly's book is so important to negotiators should be obvious.  As negotiators, we need to persuade, cajole, influence, seduce, tempt, hustle and sell not only the principled basis for our bargaining position, but also why our interests, needs and desires should make a difference to our negotiation partner.

So it is with the Writers' Guild, still on strike one full month after they exchanged keyboards for picket signs and paychecks for craft services at the front gates of Warners, CBS, Paramount and the like.

Recently, we posted the WGA's YouTube ad for the strike, "Why We Fight:  the Writers' Strike" on both our Negotiation and IP ADR Blogs. 

At 3 minutes and 50 seconds, this video is a textbook example of powerfully persuasive techniques that negotiators, litigators and trial attorneys can all use to "win" the negotiation, the oral argument, or the jury verdict.    

TAKE A LOOK AT THE VIDEO NOW

Why We Fight:  Wrapping it Up in the Flag

The video's title "Why We Fight" is taken from a series of seven documentary films made for the U.S. government by the revered director Frank Capra (It's a Wonderful Life, Mr. Smith Goes to Washington).  Capra's documentaries -- all entitled Why We Fight -- were instrumental in gaining and maintaining the support of a wary American public for our participation in the Second Wold War.  The last "good war." 

Before the viewer presses "play" on this video, its producers have already managed to wrap their short documentary up in the American flag -- carried by Capra -- a Hollywood figure more associated with can-do, hard-working, honest American "manhood" than anyone to walk off a Hollywood movie set since Ronald Reagan first strolled into public life.  

Back to Tilly and the Documentary's "Reason Giving"    

Although the Writers Guild of America is apparently still winning the PR war with the Alliance of Motion Picture and Television Producers, opinion can swifty shift as related businesses begin to feel the ill-effects of an entire industry at stand-still.  This little video should stand them in good stead for quite some time and Tilly can tell us why.

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Indisputably's Michael Moffit on Mediator Ethics

Michael Moffitt, Associate Professor at the University of Oregon School of Law and Indisputably.org blogger recently posted his thoughts about the difference between the Mediation Ethics we are taught and the Mediation Ethics we Need here

The full post is well worth reading.  Most applicable to my own practial ethics needs, however, is the following post excerpt.

None of the existing or proposed ethical codes, he writes,  

address the relatively common and always difficult situations in which more than one ethical principle is implicated, and in which no course of action perfectly protects all of the mediation principles involved.

One party appears to have an imperfect understanding of some aspect of a deal, the other party is credibly indicating an intention to withdraw from the mediation, the conversation up to this point suggests that the issues appearing in the legal complaint are only one component of what’s going on and what each party cares about, the case is proceeding under brutal external time constraints, the media are making regular requests for updates, and the mediator isn’t sure what the best next steps might be.

That’s not just an ethical question, but there are ethical questions embedded in there. And nothing in most articulations of mediation ethical standards even acknowledges, much less guides, the balancing I must do.

Amen, brother and thanks for joining the conversation about ethics.

The Writers Explain the Strike in Three Minutes and Fifty Seconds

Thanks to the National Law Journal's Los Angeles Legal Pad for posting this short video "Why We Strike."

A post explaining the reason the reasons given here feel pretty darn persuasive next.

And, by the way, we're really happy to see theL.A. Legal Pad becoming much more substantive a legal news source than it originally was. 

We're pretty certain we have Jason Siegel to thank for this improvement in content and thank him we do!

We're looking forward to watching it grow!

Avoiding Evil and Promoting Good: the Bully in the Workplace

As social psychologist Phillip G. Zimbardo proved in his Stanford University "student prison" experiment in the 1970's and Stanley Milgram proved in his "susceptibility to authority" experiments in the 1960's, we are not only all capable of bullying behavior, we are all capable of torture.

Zimbardo's students who were randomly divided into "guards" and "prisoners" eerily anticipated the horror of Abu Ghraib decades before the American military was pantsed by its own people and a few digital cameras. 

If you don't recall Zimbardo's study, shortly after being assigned their roles as "guards" or "prisoners" the "guards" began tormenting the "prisoners," the "prisoners" began to have mental break-downs, and Zimbardo, by his own accounting, become "a Prison Superintendent [who] began to talk, walk and act like a rigid institutional authority figure more concerned about the security of 'my prison' than the needs of the young men entrusted to my care as a psychological researcher."

In Zimbardo's article -- The Psychology of Power and Evil:  All Power to the Person?  To the Situation?  To the System? here, he describes those situations in which we are all prone to become bullies and those workplace practices that can prevent us from "going rogue."   

(above, a short documentary with original footage from the prison experiment)

Zimbardo's prescriptions for creating a culture of good rather than evil after the jump. 

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Negotiating Procrastination or What Writers' Block Looks Like

negotiate

+ procrastinate

+ writer's block

+ stumble upon

EQUALS 

From The Big Bang to Today: timeline of evolution; a chronicle of the universe, the solar system, and the development of life on Earth.

(REALLY TOTALLY COOL)

negotiate

INTRANSITIVE VERB: To confer with another or others in order to come to terms or reach an agreement: “It is difficult to negotiate where neither will trust” (Samuel Johnson).

TRANSITIVE VERB: 1. To arrange or settle by discussion and mutual agreement: negotiate a contract. 2a. To transfer title to or ownership of (a promissory note, for example) to another party by delivery or by delivery and endorsement in return for value received. b. To sell or discount (assets or securities, for example). 3a. To succeed in going over or coping with: negotiate a sharp curve. b. To succeed in accomplishing or managing: negotiate a difficult musical passage.

ETYMOLOGY: Latin negtir, negtit-, to transact business, from negtium, business : neg-, not; see ne in Appendix I + tium, leisure.

procrastinate 

INTRANSITIVE VERB: To put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness.

TRANSITIVE VERB: To postpone or delay needlessly.

ETYMOLOGY: Latin prcrstinre, prcrstint- : pr-, forward; see pro–1 + crstinus, of tomorrow (from crs, tomorrow).

writer's block

NOUN: A usually temporary psychological inability to begin or continue work on a piece of writing.

stumble

INTRANSITIVE VERB: 1a. To miss one's step in walking or running; trip and almost fall. b. To proceed unsteadily or falteringly; flounder. See synonyms at blunder. c. To act or speak falteringly or clumsily. 2. To make a mistake; blunder. 3. To fall into evil ways; err. 4. To come upon accidentally or unexpectedly: “The urge to wider voyages . . . caused men to stumble upon New America” (Kenneth Cragg).

TRANSITIVE VERB: To cause to stumble.

NOUN: 1. The act of stumbling. 2. A mistake or blunder.

ETYMOLOGY: Middle English stumblen, probably of Scandinavian origin; akin to Old Norse stumra.

Mediator Diane Levin on the Mysterious Math of Adding and Dividing by Two

Friend Diane Levin of the Online Guide to Mediation writes:

I think the question you raise here, requires a cognitive psychologist to answer. Having said that, I've seen this phenomenon [of the negotiation ending half way between the first two offers] myself. I suspect it's because the notion of "splitting the difference" or "meet me halfway" is so deeply ingrained in us.

Perhaps on some level this result "feels fair" to parties -- not surprising when 
even envious monkeys can spot a bum deal.


When the "Fair" Result Doesn't Result

However, I don't think it's fair to assume that this applies in all cases. I don't believe it holds true in mediations between an attorney and his/her client on one side and an unrepresented party on the other, when you're more likely to get out-of-the-ballpark initial demands from the unrepresented party (the "it's what my third cousin who's going to law school said I could get" phenomenon), or when either or both parties are unprepared to negotiate and have no objective criteria on which to base their dollar demands. Then the end result is wildly different from what you've described. And those are the cases that can break your heart.

For example, consider a not-so-untypical employment discrimination case between an unrepresented complainant and an employer with their lawyers. The complainant's first demand is $900,000 -- about $896,000 shy of what would have been a reasonable starting demand. The counteroffer is $500. The complainant's next move is to $50,000. The counteroffer is $750. In the next exchange of numbers, the complainant moves to $35,000, followed by a counteroffer of $900, which astonishingly settles the case.

Mathematical formulae are all very well, but they don't take into account all the variables that can come into play at the table. I've long stopped trying to predict what clients will do -- I just strap on my seatbelt and get ready for the ride.

I'm curious to hear what the experts on human behavior have to say on this. And I'm very much looking forward to the next installment in this series, Vickie.

THANKS DIANE!!  You can see Diane's thoughts on all things mediation at the Online Guide to Mediation.