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Two Interviews, Two Great (Blush) Mediators

This month brings us interviews with two mediators -- Geoff Sharp -- who talks about his mediation practice and yours truly, who talks about, what else, business and practice development while wearing my literary writer and editor's hat.  

Gini Nelson has included in this month's Engaging Conflicts newsletter an interview with one of my mediation mentors, New Zealand's Geoff Sharp who writes the brilliantly witty and incredibly honest ADR blog Mediator blah blah.  

To whet the appetites of my mediator readers, here's a snippet of Geoff's advice about being a mediation chameleon.

Gini: Do you have a “conflict resolution hero,” and if so, who and why?

Geoff: Yes I do. It is the chameleon.   I have always thought that mediators are natural chameleons. Good mediators can’t have egos, or at least they can’t bring them into the room, and they must to some extent mould themselves on the day to the environment they find  . . . To me that is all to do with being self aware, reflective and having very good antennae to know what and how one should present. If not the chameleon it is a little pig out at our bit of dirt just north of Wellington here in New Zealand. This little black kune pig lives with about five horses in a field. I think it thinks it’s a horse. It regularly intervenes when there is a problem between horses. It is a bit like George Orwell’s Animal Farm!

To read the rest of Gini's interview with Geoff, click here.

The second interview is with "completion catalyst" Lisa Gates of the Intrinsic Life Design blog.  Lisa and I stumbled across one another on the List of Magical Women Bloggers.  She's a career coach for writers who describes her work in this way:

I am the crazy glue on the soles of your sneakers that keeps you committed to your book, your project, your Big Idea. I'm the kick in the pants you wish you had nine months ago when you birthed that Big Idea in the first place. I'm equal parts left-brain, right-brain and I have three words for all you lurking, burning, idea-crazed writers, entrepreneurs and dreamers: Someday is now.

Because I'm the editor of a literary journal and a writer when I'm not mediating or blogging, and because Lisa liked my journal (thanks Lisa!) she interviewed me about pursuing ones writing dreams, which the journal surely is for me.

Because mediators are also pursuing a dream, I provide a little bit of the interview with Lisa here.  If this excerpt interests you at all, you can find the entire interview on Lisa's blog here.

Lisa:  How do you market or carve out your niche in the literary journal landscape?

Vickie:  You just start networking. I was innocent. I downloaded Yahoo's free internet-design program, taught myself to use it and am continuing to use it to this day. I think the website costs me about $20/month and the ad in Poets & Writers costs $60 every other month. I just do it.

That's what I've learned since '04 about everything in life. You just start the thing. You take a single step in the direction of a dream and another the next day, and the one after that. Things begin to grow. People start to hear about you or tell their friends or post something on a blog like you're doing. You become a kind of attractor. I'm not new age so you'll have to understand that what I'm about to say is truly metaphoric and not a concrete belief.

I think the power of intention coupled with action creates a kind of force that becomes bigger than you are, and everything you've ever done aligns with that intention and becomes part of the engine of the dream.

I think both Geoff and I would say, whatever your dream, go for it!

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Lisa Gates - September 19, 2007 6:04 PM

Vickie, it's quite startling to read your words in print isn't it? Your openness and directness made the interview.

Let's make some more noise...

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