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         <title>Corporate Clients to Legal Counsel: Bring Us Back in from the Cold</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>We were in hour ten of a multi-party mediation convened to settle a million dollar copyright dispute among three Los Angeles garmentos. Counsel for the target defendant was demonstrating righteous indignation for my benefit. He was packing his trial bag, fuming about the other parties&rsquo; bad faith and the waste of time the mediation had been.</p>
<p>I don&rsquo;t highly recommend this negotiation tactic but I see it a lot.</p>
<p>&ldquo;We&rsquo;re leaving,&rdquo; counsel shouted, gesturing that his client should follow.</p>
<p>I too have a temper. I don&rsquo;t know a litigator who doesn&rsquo;t. But I tuck it down deep when I&rsquo;m playing the role of &ldquo;neutral.&rdquo;</p>
<p>&ldquo;I don&rsquo;t think that&rsquo;s a good idea,&rdquo; I responded in the low, slow, patient tone of voice you use with over-excited children and frightened animals.</p>
<p>&ldquo;And why do you think that?&rdquo; he snarled.</p>
<p>&ldquo;Because the first thing your client said to me was that failure here today was not an option. He&rsquo;s broke. He&rsquo;s nearing retirement. He&rsquo;s beaten. He can&rsquo;t sleep at night. He needs me to get the best deal possible and then he desperately needs to take a vacation.&rdquo;</p>
<p>The client, who hadn&rsquo;t moved a muscle since this exchange began heaved an audible sigh of relief and said to me &ldquo;thank you so much. I&rsquo;ve been saying that for two years and no one has ever acknowledged it before.&rdquo;</p>
<p>This is where legally astute resolution of litigation by executives and managers comes in.</p>
<p>Continue reading <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/06/28/advice-for-management-negotiate-a-legally-astute-resolution/#more-3077">here</a></p>]]></description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 29 Jun 2011 09:03:54 -0800</pubDate>
         <dc:creator>Victoria Pynchon</dc:creator>

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         <title>Do You REALLY Want Me to Be Evaluative?</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.adrservices.org/neutrals/michael-carbone.php"><img class="mt-image-left" style="float: left; margin: 0 20px 20px 0;" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/assets_c/2011/03/michaelCarbone-thumb-150x185-9805.jpg" alt="michaelCarbone.jpg" width="150" height="185" /></a>This just in from one of my colleagues at<a href="http://www.adrservices.org/"> ADR Services, Inc.</a>, <a href="http://www.adrservices.org/neutrals/michael-carbone.php">Michael P. Carbone</a>. Good stuff and an excellent mediator for commercial real estate and construction dispute litigation.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>A mistake that lawyers sometimes make is failing to ask for what they want.&nbsp; If they do want an evaluation they can ask for it when they hire the neutral. There are processes variously known as neutral evaluation, non-binding arbitration, or early case assessment which are designed specifically for this purpose.&nbsp; They can be used independently or they can be combined with mediation.<br />&nbsp;<br />I was once hired to give a neutral evaluation in a commercial real estate case.&nbsp; The parties told me at the outset that while they were interested in exploring settlement they were really interested in my opinion on the merits.&nbsp; So we conducted a mediation that included a neutral evaluation.&nbsp; Not only did this meet their needs, the evaluation was given in a confidential setting and could not be used as evidence if they did not settle.<br />&nbsp;<br />The point is that both parties wanted the process to be evaluative.&nbsp; It was not a situation where one party was expecting the mediator to be evaluative and the other party wanted the mediator to refrain from doing so.<br />&nbsp;<br />When parties hire a mediator, they need to be of the same mind about the process. Otherwise the result will be like splitting a steak with your partner when one of you likes it rare and the other likes it well done. Somebody is going to get indigestion!</em></p>]]></description>
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         <title>Be a Negotiation Hero! Resolve Your Differences Today with or Without a Third Party Neutral</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>I'm dashing this post off between mediations. Here are statements I will not have to hear you make if you are a lean, mean negotiation machine.</p>
<p><strong>"If she'd asked for a reduction in her commercial lease rate in light of the downturn in the economy, we would have negotiated a decrease in her yearly rent."</strong></p>
<p><strong>"If they'd come to me to discuss the matter before they hired lawyers, we could have resolved this ourselves. Now that I've spent $___________ in attorneys' fees, I don't see anyway of coming to a resolution short of trial."</strong></p>
<p><strong>"I don't respond well to ultimatums. Tell them we'll see them in Court."</strong></p>
<p>(requiring me to reframe the "ultimatum" as an effort to suss out their bottom line and to say, for the ten thousandth time, "if you're moving in the direction of one another, there's still a possibility that your true bottom lines overlap so let's keep negotiating")</p>
<p><strong>"I'll be frank with you, my true bottom line is . . . . . "</strong></p>
<p>No no! Please do not tell the mediator your "true" bottom line. If you're telling her the truth (something she does not assume) then she will drive the negotiation toward your bottom line. Any mediator will. They can't help it. Any number that enters the negotiation environment in a circumstance of uncertainty about value will serve as an anchor, strongly influencing the outcome in every exchange of offers and counter-offers.</p>
<p>On the other hand, if you think you can fool her with a false bottom line, you are a brown belt and may proceed.</p>
<p><strong>"They will never agree to my terms."</strong></p>
<p>If the mediator says she doesn't agree with you, listen up! She's holding confidential information from the other side. Just as importantly, only you know what your <em>actual terms</em> are, so no one can predict the future of any negotiation because no one knows what their bargaining partners' true bottom lines are. Don't get ahead of yourself. Be patient. As long as you're moving in the direction of one another, a deal is more likely than not.</p>
<p><strong>"They're negotiating in bad faith."</strong></p>
<p>There's no such thing as "bad faith negotiation."</p>
<p>Are they lying to you about a material term of the potential agreement or facts that drive your decision? If so, put it in the deal memo as a condition precedent to your obligation.</p>
<p><strong>"He's scum (a liar, evil, contemptible, etc.)."</strong></p>
<p>That may be true. It should not, however, keep you from entering into a deal that reduces your economic risk to an acceptable level at a cost that makes business sense to you.</p>
<p><strong>"O.K., but they have to pay your full fee."</strong></p>
<p>I've just helped the parties settle a nine-figure case with five plaintiffs and twenty defendants and you want them to pay my $5,000 fee. You're quibbling over $2,500 after paying $34 million to settle this case? You're trying to save face, which is fine. But is it worth making your opponent lose face and potentially blowing up the deal you've just spent fifteen hours and tens of thousands of dollars negotiating?</p>
<p>I thought not.</p>
<p>More later. Off to mediate.</p>]]></description>
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         <pubDate>Wed, 23 Feb 2011 08:33:43 -0800</pubDate>
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         <title>The Week at ForbesWoman</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>We've had a busy week over at ForbesWoman in articles and blog posts covering:</p>
<p><strong>The Davos World Economic Forum</strong></p>
<p>The paucity of women at the Davos Economic Forum despite how rich the ones who attended are as described in this post by Forbes staff writer <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/lkroll/">Louisa Kroll</a>, <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/luisakroll/2011/01/29/the-richest-women-at-davos/"><em>The Richest Women at Davo</em>s</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/moiraforbes/2011/01/28/the-fashion-dilemma-for-davos-women-dressing-for-business-and-snow/">Women's Davos Wardrobe Dilemma</a>s covered by <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/moiraforbes/">Moira Forbes</a> as an unfortunate but still critical factor for the display of power necessary to be a player at the World Economic Forum.</p>
<p>A <a href="http://www.forbes.com/2011/01/25/ceos-favorite-executive-conferences-leadership-ceonetwork-women_slide.html">photo gallery</a> of the executive conferences women CEOs love best.</p>
<p><strong>The Continued Assault on the Glass Ceiling</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/amansinghdas/">Aman Singh's</a> post on<strong>&nbsp;</strong><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/csr/2011/01/28/why-qualified-women-dont-make-it-to-executive-leadership/"><em>Why So Many Top Women Don't Make it to Executive Leadership</em></a><strong>.</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/jgoudreau/">Jenna Goudreau's</a> <em><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/jennagoudreau/2011/01/18/jobs-outlook-careers-headed-for-the-trash-pile-worst-occupation-hiring-declining-fields-economy-market/">Jobs Outlook:Careers Headed for the Trash Pile</a></em></p>
<p><strong><br /></strong></p>]]><![CDATA[<p><strong style="font-weight: bold;">Negotiation, Sponsorship, the Wage Gap and a Digression into Frivolous Lawsuits at<em style="font-style: italic;">&nbsp;She Negotiates</em></strong></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/29/5-reasons-why-your-boss-wants-to-give-you-a-raise-this-year/">Five Reasons Your Boss Wants to Give You a Raise This Year</a>&nbsp;(Gender Neutral)</em></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/27/negotiating-with-mattie-ross-of-true-grit/">Negotiating with Mattie Ross of True Grit</a>&nbsp;(Gender Neutral)</em></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/27/sponsorship-not-mentorship-can-greatly-narrow-the-wage-gap/">Sponsorship, Not Mentorship, Can Greatly Narrow the Wage Gap</a></em></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/26/kucinich-vs-the-olive-pit-in-a-world-of-injustice/">Kucinich and the Olive Pit in a World of Injustice</a>&nbsp;(gender neutral)</em></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/26/first-you-wake-up-then-you-negotiate/">First You Wake Up, Then You Negotiate</a>&nbsp;(gender neutral)</em></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/25/jealousys-underhanded-contribution-to-the-wage-gap/">Jealousy's Underhanded Contribution to the Wage Gap</a>&nbsp;by our Gen-Y blogger&nbsp;<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/katielphillips01/">Katie Phillips</a>.</em></p>
<p><strong style="font-weight: bold;">Provocative Posts and Articles</strong></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/work-in-progress/2011/01/28/bad-career-advice-nice-guys-finish-last/">Bad Career Advice:Nice Guys (and Girls) Finish Last</a>&nbsp;</em>by&nbsp;<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/christinescivicque/">Christine Scivicque</a></p>
<p><em style="font-style: italic;"><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/meghancasserly/2011/01/27/university-of-ohio-parenting-father-involvement-coparenting/">Study says Dads Should be Less Involved in Parenting</a></em>&nbsp;by Forbes Staff Writer&nbsp;<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/mcasserly/">Meghan Casserly</a>&nbsp;as well as her terrific article on&nbsp;<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/meghancasserly/2011/01/27/study-sexy-news-anchors-fox-news-megyn-kelly-laura-berman/"><em style="font-style: italic;">Sexy News Anchors' Distracting Effect on Viewers</em></a>&nbsp;who can't seem to recall the news disseminated by these attractive women!</p>
<p>There's lots more over at&nbsp;<em style="font-style: italic;">ForbesWoman</em>&nbsp;but those are the articles and blog posts that caught my own attention this week. Put ForbesWoman on your newsreader whether you're male or female, because it's pretty clear that women's economic power is growing and&nbsp;<em style="font-style: italic;">attention must be paid.</em>&nbsp;</p>]]></description>
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         <pubDate>Sat, 29 Jan 2011 15:36:39 -0800</pubDate>
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<h2>Thanks to <a href="http://twitter.com/neildenny">@NeilDenny</a>&nbsp;of <a href="http://lawyer1point9.wordpress.com/">Lawyer 1point9&nbsp;</a> for the head's up.</h2>]]></description>
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         <title>WLALA President Angela Haskins Begins Her Term By Creating an ADR Section</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="left" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/AngelaHaskins.jpg" style="width: 236px; height: 165px;" alt="" />Congratulations are in order to attorney Angela Haskins who is not only being installed as the President of the <a href="http://wlala.org/">Women Lawyers Association of Los Angeles</a> this Thursday evening, but who has had the wisdom to create a section for women in ADR ~ an idea whose time has come.</p>
<p>Angela was <a href="http://shenegotiates.squarespace.com/storage/AngelaHaskins.pdf">profiled in the Daily Journal today here</a>.&nbsp; As that profile noted,</p>
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<p><em><span>Drawing on her years  of experience in alternate dispute  resolution, [Angela] is creating a section  on women in ADR. The  association has many ADR professionals in its  membership, she noted,  but this will be the first time it has had a  section dedicated to women  who have made great inroads into what had  become a male-dominated  practice. </span></em></p>
<p><em><span> Haskins also will keep a eye on addressing the changing  dynamics  affecting women lawyers. Two years ago, she said, WLALA  President Kathy  Forester of Munger, Tolles &amp; Olson created a joint  task force for  women, focusing on how to make partner, stay partner and  to make that be  an important part of their career. </span></em></p>
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<p><span>I'll be chairing the ADR Committee this year.&nbsp; As part of  Angela's Empowerment theme, the ADR Committee's activities will be  highlighting its own &quot;Women Do Refer&quot; initiative ~ details here and at <a href="http://shenegotiates.squarespace.com/blog/wlala.org">WLALA's web page here</a> soon.</span></p>
<p><span>CONGRATULATIONS TO ANGELA!</span></p>]]></description>
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         <title>Virtual Property, Virtual Litigation and Real Resolution</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p><img width="214" vspace="5" hspace="5" height="172" border="5" align="right" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/Joan-Miro-Dog-Barking-at-the-Moon.jpg" alt="" />I&nbsp;continue to bark at the moon.</p>
<p><a href="http://articles.latimes.com/2010/apr/30/business/la-fi-lazarus-20100430">Here's a piece I&nbsp;missed in April on real litigation filed over virtual property in Second Life</a>.</p>
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<p><em>Architect  David Denton spends much of his time on a lush tropical island, where  he experiments with cutting-edge building designs and creates spaces for  artists to showcase their work.</em></p>
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<p><em>Never mind that the island only  exists in the virtual-reality world of <a href="http://secondlife.com/">Second Life</a>, a popular online  venue where people interact via digital avatars. Denton, 62, said he  purchased the island for about $700 &mdash; real money, not virtual cash &mdash;  from its former owner, and considers it his property.</em></p>
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<p>Here's the thought this article triggers.&nbsp; If 90% of all litigation involving <em>people </em>(I'll skip corporate litigation <em>and </em>litigation brought to vindicate rights such as that declaring Prop 8 unconstitutional) will end with a retired Judge telling the <em>people </em>that litigation is too expensive and a jury trial too uncertain for them to bear, why don't we just litigate <em>virtually </em>(with <a href="http://secondlife.com/whatis/currency.php">Linden dollars</a>!) giving the parties the <em>experience </em>of litigation that will eventually drive them to settlement?</p>
<p>I'm sure some smart programmer can come up with an algorithm for most personal disputes, including both factual templates and the application of simple legal principles.&nbsp; A &quot;ticker&quot; could keep track of the dollars your virtual attorney is billing on your law suit's screen everyday.&nbsp; Continuances, discovery motions, pre-trial proceedings and depositions could all be simulated.</p>
<p><em>Then </em>the parties return from the virtual life of Second Life Litigation and sit down in the old fashioned way to negotiate a resolution to their dispute or, if necessary, hire a village elder <em>trained in conflict resolution</em>, sometimes called a mediator, to help them do so.</p>]]></description>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p>A criminal defense lawyer I know used to ask me &quot;just exactly what is it that you 'litigators' <em>do </em>everyday anyway?'&quot;</p>
<p><a href="http://www.courtreportertn.com/west-tennessee-stenographers/memphis-court-reporters"><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="right" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/memphis-court-reporters.jpeg" style="width: 229px; height: 230px;" alt="" /></a>What we <em>do, </em>my friend, is <em>discovery. &nbsp;</em></p>
<p>Discovery.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Saying that discovery is part of litigation practice is like talking about the wet part of the ocean.</p>
<p>How do you know when you're finally <em>finished </em>with legal practice?&nbsp; When do the heavens open up and angels descend with the news that you've finally done enough and may now go and do that which you <em>truly </em>love?&nbsp;</p>
<p>It's usually a discovery moment.</p>
<p>For one of my former law partners, it came on the heels of a five page meet and confer letter.&nbsp; Single spaced.&nbsp; When my friend's secretary came into her office with the written response, the expression on her face ranged between shock and amusement.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&quot;You're not really going to send this, are you?&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;Yes, I am.&nbsp; Let me sign it.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;No no no no no no no.&nbsp; I can't let you do this.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;Yes you can.&nbsp; Let me sign it.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;Pleeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;Sign.&quot;</p>
<p>Here's the response that struck fear into the heart of an overworked legal secretary:&nbsp;</p>
<p><em>Whatever.</em></p>
<p>And yes.&nbsp; She sent it.</p>
<p><strong>For those of you who have not yet reached the promised land of <em>Discovery Whatever</em>, I've got very very very good news</strong> for you.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.resolvingdiscoverydisputes.com/"><img width="80" vspace="5" hspace="5" height="80" border="5" align="left" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/1fb90ee.jpg" alt="" />The Discovery Referee Speaks</a>!&nbsp; And she<em> is </em>a Goddess.&nbsp; <a href="http://www.resolvingdiscoverydisputes.com/promo/about/about.html">Goddess Kathy Gallo</a> to be exact.</p>
<p>Yesterday's post reminds us what we ought to know intuitively during our first deposition - the <a href="http://www.resolvingdiscoverydisputes.com/promo/about/about.html"><strong>Court Reporter is the Goddess of the Deposition</strong></a><strong> </strong>(<a href="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/2007/03/articles/legal-practice/advice-for-young-lawyers-on-the-job-deposition-training/">my  own stories of first encounters with the Sphinx of the Transcript are here</a>)</p>]]><![CDATA[<p>The tale Kathy tells is likely the most outrageous but certainly not  the most uncommon example of attorney incivility to court reporters that  I've seen in a long long time.&nbsp; That post, and the ones that precede it  lead me to believe that Kathy will preside at the top of the <a href="http://www.abajournal.com/magazine/article/third_annual_aba_journal_blawg_100">ABA Law Blog 100</a> before I can finish saying &quot;thank god I got out before <em>e-discovery.</em>&quot;</p>
<p>I know of only one discovery referee who rivals my affection and respect for Kathy -- the brilliant,&nbsp; persistent and omnipresent<a href="http://www.californianeutrals.org/eli-chernow"> Eli (&quot;and your backup argument would be?&quot;) Chernow.</a>&nbsp;  Eli swore my dad in as Superior Court Commissioner before I went to law  school.&nbsp; That alone gives him a warm place in my heart.&nbsp; He also let my  step-son (then my paralegal) ask his first deposition questions in an  antitrust action that had become so over-heated we needed the wise calm  of a discovery umpire to get us from, &quot;could you spell your name for the  Court Reporter&quot; to &quot;I have no further questions of this witness.&quot;&nbsp; Only  my step-son (<a href="http://www.irell.com/professionals-272.html">now at Irell</a>) and Eli ever <em>did </em>understand the complicated Rand statistical study that underlay the plaintiffs' conspiracy allegations.</p>
<p><strong>The Court Reporter</strong></p>
<p>As Kathy rightly notes - the <a href="http://www.resolvingdiscoverydisputes.com/interrogatories/the-goddess-of-the-deposition/">Court Reporter is the Goddess of the Deposition</a> and don't you go forgetting it.&nbsp; The Court Reporter is your very own home court advantage or you greatest nemesis.&nbsp;&nbsp; <em>You think the Sphinx of the Conference Room </em>doesn't  talk to her friends, the Discovery Referee, or opposing counsel if you  disrespect her?&nbsp; You think she doesn't have the discretion to transcribe  or not transcribe every &quot;um,&quot; &quot;uh,&quot; and &quot;arrrrrrr, um, uhhhhhh&quot; you  mutter as you struggle with the guy who says &quot;yes,&quot; &quot;no,&quot; &quot;I don't  know,&quot; and, &quot;I&nbsp;don't understand your question, could you please rephrase  it&quot; for hours, even <em>days </em>on end.&nbsp;You think she can't make  marking your own documents as exhibits the hell that populated your  young adult law school dreamscape?&nbsp; You think the Court Reporter in  incapable of taking <em>revenge? &nbsp;</em></p>
<p>Think again.</p>
<p><strong>How Do I Get from My First Admonition to My Final Discovery Motion without Humiliation?</strong></p>
<p>Until a couple of weeks ago, the answer to this question was - you  don't.&nbsp; The only way to learn how to mark an exhibit, how to speak to a  court reporter, know whether she actually <em>strikes </em>anything from  the record, respond to a foundational objection, how to mark an exhibit  without shame, how to respond to the other side's instructions not to  answer and how to lead your professional life without yourself becoming a  screaming&nbsp; A**hole, was to first make a complete and utter fool of  yourself.&nbsp; That's how we learn to become lawyers young men and women.</p>
<p><em>Now </em>that the Goddess of Discovery has arrived on the shores of the blogosphere, however, you might, <em>just might, </em>avoid humiliation and become a lean, mean discovery machine by clicking on Kathy's RSS feeder and reading her posts <em>every single day.</em></p>
<p>Got it?</p>
<p>Got it!</p>
<p>Now go get 'em champ! </p>]]></description>
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         <title>In-House Question of the Week:  How Do You Make Frivolous Plaintiffs Go Away without Litigation?</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>This is, of course, the $64 million dollar question.&nbsp; Or the $640 million dollar conundrum.&nbsp; Or the $6.4 billion dollar SNAFU.</p>
<p>Abandon all hope . . . .</p>
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<p><strong>The answer:&nbsp;</strong> make a checklist and follow it!</p>
<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/0805091742/?tag=rypple-20">Atul Gawande's Checklist Manifesto - How to Get Things Right</a> is not about ordinary lists - those &quot;to do's&quot; we never get around to; the recipe for gramma's extra fudgey brownies; or, even the T-minus rocket launch count-downs (<a href="http://www.interaction-design.org/encyclopedia/forcing_functions.html">forcing functions</a>) which my friend the astral-orbital engineer has been holding his breath through this week (his T-minus rocket count aborted at six seconds last night).</p>
<p>I'm talking about communication check-lists of the sort used by our friends in the sky-scraper business - the ones that have achieved this jaw-dropping &quot;annual avoidable failure rate&quot;:&nbsp;</p>
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<p><em><strong>0.00002 percent. </strong></em></p>
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<p><strong>What kind of check-list does that</strong>?&nbsp; In the construction industry, it's a &quot;submittal schedule&quot; - a checklist that doesn't</p>
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<p><em>specify construction tasks; it specif[ies] </em>communication <em>tasks.&nbsp; For the way the project managers dealt with the unexpected and the uncertain was by making sure the experts spoke to one another - on X date regarding Y process.</em></p>
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<p>The submittal schedule assumes that if you get the right people together to talk things over as a team, serious problems can be identified and averted.&nbsp; It's that simple and it works as well for physicians dealing with routine but complex collisions between genetics and circumstance as it does for contractors and jet pilots. Checklists, it turns out, can solve problems like raising a child . . . . or resolving disputes.&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>Can Gawande's &quot;communication checklists&quot; be good news for in-house counsel trying to prevent litigation</strong>?&nbsp;</p>
<p>Yes they can.&nbsp; And they already exist.&nbsp; Dispute resolution techniques are <em><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scalability">scalable</a> -- </em>the procedure described can be used for fights over shared lockers equally well as conflicts over shared political boundaries.&nbsp; Scalability means that the system for solving the small problem can also be used to solve the big one by &quot;adding new functionality at minimal effort.&quot;</p>
<p><a href="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/file/GuidelinesforcoordinatorsPreparingMiddleandHighSchoolStudents08(1)(1).pdf"><strong>Here's the Peer Mediation Checklist used by the Western Justice Center for Middle Schoolers</strong></a><strong>.</strong>&nbsp; I've coached these young people and they are master dispute resolvers.&nbsp; After a Peer Mediation Competition, you want to send these kids to the middle east.</p>
<p>The even better news for in-house counsel is the fact that you do not need a &quot;mediator&quot; to follow this list.&nbsp; You <em>do </em>need enhancements, however, to take you from the fight over a shared school locker to the lawyer threatening to sue your company for defamation or products liability or antitrust violations or securities fraud.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Enhancements tomorrow.&nbsp;</p>
<p>The Middle School Checklist today.</p>
<p align="left"><strong>STEP I: SETTING THE STAGE: INTRODUCTION AND GROUND RULES</strong></p>
<p align="left"><strong>Mediators</strong>: introduce themselves; explain the process of mediation and that it is voluntary; explain &nbsp; that mediators are neutral; explain confidentiality; establish a safe and comfortable environment; and, get agreement on the following ground rules:</p>
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    <li>Don&rsquo;t interrupt.</li>
    <li>No name-calling or put-downs.</li>
    <li>Agree to solve the problem.</li>
    <li>Be honest.</li>
    <li>Show respect.</li>
    <li>Be willing to listen.</li>
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<p><strong>STEP II: DEFINING THE PROBLEM</strong></p>
<p><strong>Mediators</strong>: Ask who will talk first;&nbsp; ask what happened; ask how he or she feels about what happened;&nbsp; summarize each statement; and, give each party approximately equal time to talk.</p>
<p><strong>STEP III: IDENTIFYING THE ISSUES</strong></p>
<p><strong>Mediators:</strong> Use active listening skills (repeating, summarizing, clarifying); create an agenda; focus on issues important to both parties; stay neutral; ask if any issues have been missed; and, identify areas of miscommunication or wrong assumptions.</p>
<p><strong>STEP IV: FINDING SOLUTIONS</strong></p>
<p><strong>Mediators:</strong>&nbsp; Address issues one at a time; brainstorm solutions; ask what each party would like the other to do differently in the future; ask what each party can do to resolve the dispute; and, ask what can be done differently if the problem occurs again.</p>
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STEP V: AGREEMENT AND CLOSING</strong></p>
<p><strong>Mediators:</strong> &bull;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Write specific agreements for each issue outlining who will do what,<br />
where, how and by what date; balance the agreement so both parties take responsibility for the solution; be sure the agreement is realistic for each party; be sure the agreement really addresses the issues; ask if any issues have been missed; ask parties to prevent rumors by telling people the dispute is resolved; and, thank the parties and congratulate them for their hard work.</p>]]></description>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><strong>Insight from the academics at Concurring Opinions' post on </strong><a href="http://www.concurringopinions.com/archives/2010/05/some-data-from-perceptions-in-litigation-and-mediation.html">PERCEPTIONS IN LITIGATION AND MEDIATION: LAWYERS,  DEFENDANTS, PLAINTIFFS AND GENDERED PARTIES</a> (Cambridge University Press,  New York, 2009. Post by&nbsp; <a title="Posts by Tamara Relis" href="http://www.concurringopinions.com/archives/author/tamara-relis/">Tamara Relis</a>. Image from Legal Blog Watch.</p>
<p><img border="5" align="left" vspace="5" hspace="5" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/6a00d8341cce2453ef0120a5a8bddc970b-320wi(1).jpg" style="width: 276px; height: 415px;" alt="" /><strong><em>[P]laintiffs&rsquo; articulations of their litigation objectives rarely  correlated with legal actors&rsquo; perceptions.</em></strong></p>
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<p><em>In fact, a regular and  conspicuous occurrence was the failure to mention financial compensation  as an objective at all unless probed (occurring in 65% of interviews).  </em></p>
<p><em>Instead, what plaintiffs recurrently repeatedly was a lexicon of  non-fiscal, extra-legal objectives for litigation. The issue of  &lsquo;principle&rsquo; was prominent for plaintiffs as revealed in the various  objectives they passionately spoke about. &lsquo;It&rsquo;s not about the money&rsquo; was  a recurrent theme throughout. Many of the comments concerned dignity  and respect after the injury, inability to be heard, refusal to listen,  dismissal and victim blaming. </em></p>
<p><em>Moreover, plaintiffs&rsquo; extra-legal  objectives did not appear to be affected by the passage of time, as  there were no marked disparities in the way plaintiffs spoke of why they  sued and what they wanted from the civil justice system as between  plaintiffs who had commenced litigation three to four months earlier  (interviewed subsequent to court-mandatory mediations) and claimants who  had been litigating for several years (interviewed after voluntary  mediations of cases already on trial lists).</em></p>
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<p>Here are the results from the question:&nbsp; what are your aims in mediation?</p>
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<p><em>The disparity in mediation aims of plaintiffs and plaintiff lawyers  revealed important differences in what each planned for mediation in  terms of how to resolve the same case.&nbsp; Other than wanting settlement,  the mediation objectives of plaintiffs and plaintiffs&rsquo; lawyers were  diverse in all categories. For instance, though some plaintiff lawyers  noted their clients wanted defendants to admit fault (37%), regardless  of feasibility not a single one sought this at mediation. In comparison,  virtually all plaintiffs (94%) sought fault admissions at mediation.  Similarly, plaintiff lawyers never mentioned wanting to hear defendants&rsquo;  explanations of the disputed incidents. Again this was something that  most plaintiffs desired (71%). Finally, as compared with the bulk of  claimants (88%) who sought apologies at mediation, only a minority (32%)  of plaintiff lawyers did (though almost half remarked that apologies  were important for their clients).</em></p>
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<p>For more charts, data and analysis, see the incredibly useful post over at <a href="http://www.concurringopinions.com/archives/2010/05/some-data-from-perceptions-in-litigation-and-mediation.html">Concurring Opinions here</a>.</p>
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<p><span style="color: rgb(153, 51, 0);"><strong>We&rsquo;re celebrating Mot</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(153, 51, 0);"><strong>hers  Day by posting <a href="http://shenegotiates.wordpress.com/2010/05/09/blawg-review-263/">Blawg Review #263 at the She Negotiates Blog</a> </strong></span>for one obvious  and some not so obvious reasons.&nbsp; The obvious reason is the word &ldquo;She.&rdquo;&nbsp;  The not-so-obvious reasons are:&nbsp; (1) Mother&rsquo;s Day was a <a href="http://www.peaceandreconciliation.org/">peace and reconciliation</a>  movement before it was a holiday; and, (2) peace exists only when we  have the political will to seek and the negotiation tools achieve the  resolution of conflict.</p>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p>I'm sure you've noticed that we're celebrating negotiating women here this month in honor of <a href="http://www.internationalwomensday.com/">International Women's Day</a> and <a href="http://www.nwhp.org/">National Women's History Month</a>.&nbsp; Other than tomorrow night's free negotiating women teleseminar with super coach Lisa Gates, I'm celebrating by posting in one place all of my articles on negotiating women.</p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2006/11/articles/social-psychology/the-power-of-beauty/">The  Power of Beauty</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Nature gives you the face you have at 20; it is up  to you to merit the face you have at 50. -- Coco Chanel A local judge  who has four beautiful young law students working for him this summer...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2007/06/articles/advice-for-young-lawyers/tips-from-forbes-a-word-with-women-negotiate-your-first-salary/">Tips  from Forbes &amp; a Word with Women:  Negotiate Your First Salary</a></strong></p>
<p><em> If you're entering the job  market, you'll want to check out Forbes' Magazine's Tips for Negotiating  Your First Salary. If you do not negotiate your first salary, you stand  to lose half a million dollars over..</em>.</p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/04/articles/negotiation/ask-for-it-how-women-can-use-the-power-of-negotiation-to-get-what-they-really-want/">Ask  for It:  How Women Can Use the Power of Negotiation to Get What They  Really Want</a></strong></p>
<p><em>I didn't realize until I got onto the plane out of  Seattle that Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever -- our morning plenary  session speakers (<a href="http://www.womendontask.com/">Women Don't Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide</a>) --  have written a new book -- Ask...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/04/articles/blawgs/negotiating-your-midlife-career-crisis-with-360-career-coach-lisa-gates/">Negotiating  Your Mid-Life Career Crisis with Career Coach Lisa Gates</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Practicing law, particularly litigation, is often  frustrating, sometimes humiliating, and frequently simply dispiriting.  On the other hand, the practice of law can be thrilling, intellectually  stimulating, challenging, absorbing, and a darn good way to make a good  living. When you...</em></p>
<p><strong><a href="/2008/05/articles/negotiation/is-hillary-negotiating-her-withdrawal-so-says-cokie/">Is  Hillary Negotiating Her Withdrawal?  So Says Cokie</a></strong></p>
<p><em>From <a href="http://www.wowowow.com/conversation/cokie-roberts-hillary-is-negotiating-her-withdrawal">Women on the Web's Conversation Today Cokie  Roberts: 'Hillary Is Negotiating Her Withdrawal' with Lesley Stahl</a> Q&amp;A with ABC News correspondent Cokie Roberts. Excerpt below:  LESLEY: Let&rsquo;s talk about Hillary. I&rsquo;m wondering, how do you explain</em>..</p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/05/articles/legal-practice/must-read-for-all-women-negotiating-law-firm-life/">Must  Read for All Women Negotiating Law Firm Life</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Below is my review in The Complete Lawyer of Lauren  Stiller Rikleen's must-read book </em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ending-Gauntlet-Removing-Barriers-Success/dp/0314960376"><em>Ending the Gauntlet: Removing Barriers  to Women's Success in the Law</em></a><em>. Concluding paragraph: At bottom, this  book calls for management practices that will benefit all attorneys...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/08/articles/mediation/collaboration-1/clinton-speaks-on-88th-anniversary-of-womens-suffrage/">Clinton  Speaks on 88th Anniversary of Women's Suffrage</a></strong></p>
<p><em>(Right, women protesting, 1912. My own grandmother  was 12 years old at the time this photo was taken. By the time she was  old enough to vote in 1921, she could vote) Why women's voting rights  and Hillary Clinton's DNC.</em>..</p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2009/09/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-at-forbeswoman/">Negotiating  Women at ForbesWoman</a></strong></p>
<p><em>If you're a certain age, you'll remember women's  magazines as mostly &quot;Can This Marriage Be Saved&quot; (The Ladies Home  Journal to which PWNSC members Cathy Scott's and Cordelia Mendoza's  mother was always submitting articles) or 101 Things to do with...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2009/05/articles/negotiation/negotiating-against-the-grain-of-gender/">Negotiating  Against the Grain of Gender</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Yesterday, we talked about the different negotiation  styles of men and women. Today, we're going to explore how men can  benefit from learning women-speak and women can benefit from learning  man-talk. All of the data relied upon and excerpted below...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2009/05/articles/negotiation/negotiation-101-gender-war-or-gender-peace-and-prosperity/">Negotiation  101:  Gender War or Gender Peace and Prosperity?</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Although I am indisputably a &quot;woman lawyer,&quot; I have  never thought of myself in those terms. I'm a lawyer. And I'm a woman.  I'm also a writer, a step-mother, a wife, a daughter, a river rafter,  and an aficionado of...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2009/04/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-on-new-day-talk-radio-easter-sunday-noon/">Negotiating  Women on New Day Talk Radio Easter Sunday Noon</a></strong></p>
<p><em>(and, yes, I am not only old enough to remember the  &quot;Second Wave&quot; Women's Movement, I took a quite serious role in it,  first as an unpaid volunteer and later through the federal government's  &quot;Program for Local Service&quot; at...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/12/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-5th-and-final-part/">Negotiating  Women:  5th and Final Part</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Thanks again to Vicki Flaugher of  SmartWomanGuides.com for inviting me to have this conversation with her  about ways in which women can and do maximize their bargaining power.  And yes we do talk about negotiating the purchase of an automobile...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/12/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-part-iii/">Negotiating  Women Part III</a></strong></p>
<p><em>This segment of my interview with Vicki Flaughter is  primarily about why women don't negotiate - to their substantial  economic detriment - (see Women Don't Ask Here) and what they can do  about it....</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/12/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-part-ii/">Negotiating  Women Part II</a></strong></p>
<p><em>In part two of Vicki Flaugher's interview with me,  we discuss ways in which women can comfortably respond to aggressive  zero-sum distributive bargainers and negotiate better business deals  using their natural strengths. I'd like to once again thank Vicki  Flaugher..</em>.</p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2008/12/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-never-negotiate-out-of-fear-but-never-fear-to-negotiate-/">Negotiating  Women:  Never Negotiate Out of Fear, But Never Fear to Negotiate --</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Video below is part I of an interview on negotiation  challenges, strategies and tactics for women with Vicki Flaugher,  founder of SmartWoman Guides. The full audio of the video is here along  with Ms. Flaugher's kind comments about our conversation....</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2010/03/articles/negotiation/negotiating-women-free-teleseminar-at-craving-balance/">Negotiating  Women:  Free Teleseminar at Craving Balance</a></strong></p>
<p><em>How to Negotiate Anything: Free Intro Thursday, Mar  18, '10 8pm EST Some researchers say that women's failure to negotiate  working conditions, salary or other compensation--along with their  hesitancy to seek what they're worth when they do negotiate--is one  of...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2010/03/articles/truth-justice-and-the-american/women-bloggers-proclaim-national-womens-history-month/">Women  Bloggers Proclaim National Women's History Month</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Whereas American women of every race, class, and  ethnic background have made historic contributions to the growth and  strength of our Nation in countless recorded and unrecorded ways;  Whereas American women have played and continue to play a critical...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2010/03/articles/conflict-resolution/update-on-gender-diversity-in-the-judiciary-and-in-adr/">Update  on Gender Diversity in the Judiciary and in ADR</a></strong></p>
<p><em>When I posted Negotiating Gender: Why So Few Women  Neutrals? I had not yet found a source for the statistical  representation of women neutrals on the American Arbitration Association  Panel. I've now located an article on the AAA website from...</em></p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2010/02/articles/conflict-resolution/negotiating-gender-why-so-few-women-neutrals/">Negotiating  Gender:  Why So Few Women Neutrals?</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Although most of the major providers of alternative  dispute resolution services tout their commitment to diversity in the  ranks of their neutrals, the coloration of nearly all ADR panels  continues to be white; the nationalities European; and the gender  male..</em>..</p>
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<p><strong><a href="/2010/02/articles/negotiation/women-negotiation-and-the-persistent-wage-gap/">Women,  Negotiation and the Persistent Wage Gap</a></strong></p>
<p><em>Thanks to Ed. at Blawg Review for passing along  this (somewhat rambling but well worth watching) lecture at Stanford  University by Deborah Kolb, the Deloitte Ellen Gabriel Professor for  Women and Leadership at the Simmons College School of Management...</em>.</p>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p>You know all the statistics about women's failure to negotiate their first salaries, their car purchases, their raises, their rates, and their price points.&nbsp; If you don't, run over to <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/lisa-gates/">Lisa Gates</a> <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/">Craving Balance Blog</a> right now for the straight skinny on women and negotiation (<a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/craving-balance/2010/3/15/why-women-must-negotiate-now-more-than-ever-before.html">Why Women Must Negotiate Now than Ever Before</a>).</p>
<p>What both Lisa and I are finding with our women clients (women are Lisa's market and my quarter-market) is that they're always <em>doing stuff for free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! &nbsp;</em>Let's not waste our time analyzing <em>why</em> we do this.&nbsp; Let's just <em>stop doing it. &nbsp;</em></p>
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<p>Run on over to the Commercial ADR Blog right now to see - yes - Lisa's and my <em><a href="http://bizadr.com/2010/03/17/421/">free </a></em><a href="http://bizadr.com/2010/03/17/421/">Twitter negotiation seminar</a> where I take Lisa through a very short negotiation role play to help her negotiate a price for her services rather than simply saying &quot;yes.&quot;</p>]]></description>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="right" alt="" style="width: 261px; height: 253px;" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/blog.jpg" />Yes, Virginia, lawyers do &quot;win&quot; mediated settlement negotiations every work day.&nbsp; They do so by:</p>
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    <li>their ability to choose the right moment to first discuss settlement;</li>
    <li>their ability to &quot;control&quot; their team and their client (&quot;control&quot; being a legal term for good client relations arising from top notch client communication skills);</li>
    <li>their negotiation skill set - both in terms of long-term strategy and &quot;at the table&quot; tactics;</li>
    <li>their persuasive skill set - both with opposing counsel and with the mediator;</li>
    <li>their ability to conduct a risk-benefit analysis that approximates the true likelihood of their probable success at trial;</li>
    <li>their determination to make aggressive but reasonable first offers;</li>
    <li>their possession of and willingness to stick to a set of flexible &quot;bottom lines&quot; that give them sufficient room to &quot;horse trade&quot; and &quot;hang the meat low enough for the dog to smell it; </li>
    <li>their ability to bring the right people to the table at the right time; and,</li>
    <li>their ability to walk away without dramatics if the other side is unwilling to negotiate in the realm of reality.</li>
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<p>Some of these skills are in all litigators' arsenals.&nbsp; Where most litigators are the weakest is in the negotiation of settlements.&nbsp; I know it not only because it was my greatest area of weakness (&quot;I'm paid to <em>win </em>not to settle&quot;) but because I see it evidenced in mediation when attorneys bargain half the day away in the useless strato- and nano-spheres.</p>
<p>Here are two new resources you should have at hand every working day.&nbsp; &quot;Having blog resources at hand,&quot; by the way, means having a <a href="http://www.google.com/reader/view/#overview-page">google or other news reader</a> to send you RSS feeds.&nbsp;</p>
<p><strong>Decision Tree Analysis</strong> - <a href="https://paperchace.com/decision-trees/">the Decision Tree Analysis Blog</a> by <a href="https://paperchace.com/">PaperChace</a>.&nbsp; There's a t<a href="https://paperchace.com/register.php">en-day free trial of PaperChace's decision tree analysis software for mediators</a>, a free trial I'll take advantage of once the $^%@# book is finished (any day now, really).&nbsp; Laywers <em>love </em>numbers in the way only people who don't understand them can.&nbsp; I've had cases settle promptly as soon as everyone has put themselves to the task of making numeric estimates of their chances of success on the merits at any given stage of the litigation.&nbsp; For making the uncertain certain and depressing overly optimistic client expectations there's nothing quite like numbers.&nbsp; Do check it out.</p>
<p>There's another mediation blog to read as well, but not simply &quot;yet another&quot; blog by yet another mediator.&nbsp; This is <a href="http://www.americaninstituteofmediation.com/pg35.cfm">Lee Jay Berman</a>, one of the best and busiest mediators in town, the teacher of thousands in Pepperdine's internationally known and respected <a href="http://law.pepperdine.edu/straus/training-and-conferences/mediating-litigated-case/malibu.htm">&quot;Mediating the Litigated Case</a>&quot; and President of his own mediation think-tank and training station - the <a href="http://www.americaninstituteofmediation.com/">American Institute of Mediation</a>.</p>
<p>The blog, <a href="http://eyeonconflict.com/">Eye on Conflict</a>, will deliver to you <em>free of charge </em>the wisdom, education and training you'd otherwise pay thousands of dollars for.&nbsp; Listen, I spent two full years at the Straus Institute earning my LL.M in dispute resolution and <em>every time&nbsp;</em>I talk to Lee Jay he tells me something that improves my ability to help lawyers negotiate settlement 100%. &nbsp;Today <a href="http://eyeonconflict.com/?p=117">Lee Jay mourns the passing of a giant in our field - Richard Millen</a>.&nbsp; As you read Lee Jay's tribute, you come to understand just how deeply embedded he and his vision are in mediation theory and practice in Southern California.</p>
<p>Put these two dynamite resources in your news reader and be as good a settlement negotiator as you are a litigator and trial attorney.</p>
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<p>Thanks to Roger Wood at the <a href="http://blog.carpenterhazlewood.com/roger/?p=26">Association Law and Other Musings Blog</a> for passing along the <a href="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/file/Lunch.pdf">Order for Lunch</a> issued by the Maricopa County Superior Court (.<a href="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/file/Lunch(1).pdf">pdf</a>) excerpted below.&nbsp; Roger generously shared this truly glorious Order (and supporting opinion that you can read in the .pdf) over at <a href="http://constructionlawva.com/">Construction Law Musings</a> today in response to my Guest Post there (&quot;<a href="http://constructionlawva.com/how-to-get-sued/">How to Get Sued</a>&quot;).&nbsp;</p>
<p>Thanks Roger!&nbsp; This didn't just make my day; it made my year!</p>
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<p>&nbsp;<strong>Plaintiff&rsquo;s Motion to Compel Acceptance of Lunch Invitation</strong></p>
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<p><em>The Court has rarely seen a motion with more merit. The motion will be granted.</em></p>
<p><em>The Court has searched in vain in the Arizona Rules of Civil Procedure and cases, as well as the leading treatises on federal and Arizona procedure, to find specific support for Plaintiff&rsquo;s motion. Finding none, the Court concludes that motions of this type are so clearly within the inherent powers of the Court and have been so routinely granted that they are non-controversial and require no precedential support.</em></p>
<p><em>The writers support the concept. Conversation has been called &ldquo;the socializing instrument par excellence&rdquo; (Jose Ortega y Gasset, Invertebrate Spain) and &ldquo;one of the greatest pleasures in life&rdquo; (Somerset Maugham, The Moon and Sixpence). John Dryden referred to&ldquo;Sweet discourse, the banquet of the mind&rdquo; (The Flower and the Leaf).</em></p>
<p><em>Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel extended a lunch invitation to Defendant&rsquo;s counsel &ldquo;to have a discussion regarding discovery and other matters.&rdquo; Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel offered to &ldquo;pay for lunch.&rdquo;&nbsp; Defendant&rsquo;s counsel failed to respond until the motion was filed. </em></p>
<p><em>Defendant&rsquo;s counsel distrusts Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel&rsquo;s motives and fears that Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel&rsquo;s purpose is to persuade Defendant&rsquo;s counsel of the lack of merit in the defense case.</em></p>
<p><em>The Court has no doubt of Defendant&rsquo;s counsel&rsquo;s ability to withstand Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel&rsquo;s blandishments and to respond sally for sally and barb for barb. Defendant&rsquo;s counsel now makes what may be an illusory acceptance of Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel&rsquo;s invitation by saying, &ldquo;We would love to have lunch at Ruth&rsquo;s Chris with/on . . .&rdquo; Plaintiff&rsquo;s counsel. 1<br />
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1 Everyone knows that Ruth&rsquo;s Chris, while open for dinner, is not open for lunch. This &nbsp; is a matter of which the Court may take judicial notice.</em></p>
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<p>Read on by clicking on the .pdf above.</p>
<p>And how could I resist adding the &quot;will you go to lunch!&quot; scene from David Mamet's <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104348/">Glengarry Glen Ross</a>.</p>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/about/about-diane-levin/"><img hspace="5" border="5" vspace="5" align="left" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/levin_upclose.jpg" style="width: 181px; height: 300px;" alt="" /></a>If you're following this blog but not <a href="http://mediationchannel.com">Diane Levin's Blog The Mediation Channel</a>, I&nbsp;have good news for you.&nbsp; Diane is an extremely focused, disciplined and lively writer.&nbsp; She's also one of the brightest and most canny negotiators, mediators and negotiation trainers I know.</p>
<p>Diane describes her series, <a href="http://mediationchannel.com/category/fallacious-argument-of-the-month/">Fallacious Argument of the Month</a>, as follows:</p>
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<p style="margin-left: 80px;"><em>With the goal of promoting clearheaded and reasoned debate and improving discourse, each month I skewer a different fallacy.</em></p>
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<p>Before giving you entree to this excellent series, let me first note that these arguments <strong><em>do not justify </em></strong>any movement in your negotiation position.&nbsp; Remember - you need a <em>new number </em>and a <em>new reason&nbsp;</em>to counter that new number.&nbsp; If your mediator or negotiating partner expects you to give up something, he'd better have a darn good reason for you to do so.&nbsp; If you're a lawyer representing a party, you can feel your client figuratively or literally tugging on your sleeve when you offer more or agree to accept less in the absence of a justification that makes <em>business sense.</em></p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/category/fallacious-argument-of-the-month/">The Appeal to Authority</a></p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/2009/12/06/fallacious-argument-of-the-month-argumentum-ad-hominem/">Argumentum ad Hominem</a> (this one is so irritating it can <em>create </em>impasse where none previously existed)</p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/2009/11/16/fallacious-argument-of-the-month-in-pursuit-of-the-red-herring/">The Red Herring</a></p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/2009/10/13/fallacious-argument-of-the-month-the-confusion-of-cause-and-effect/">Confusing Cause and Effect</a></p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/2009/09/11/fallacious-argument-of-the-month-misusing-the-ellipsis/">The Misleading Ellipsis</a> (to which I&nbsp;add this caution ~~&gt; the quickest path from respected advocate to deceitful scoundrel is the misleading ellipsis - Judge, Arbitrator, Mediator and Opponent will all distrust your <em>bona fides</em> from that date forward; if you can't think of a better argument, fall on your sword on this issue and create a better one just over the next hill).</p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/2009/08/03/fallacious-argument-of-the-month-the-false-analogy/">The False Analogy</a></p>
<p><a href="http://mediationchannel.com/2009/07/06/fallacious-argument-of-the-month-the-straw-man-argument/">The Straw Man</a></p>
<p>Diane adds one new fallacious argument every month.&nbsp; I'll endeavor to keep up with her.&nbsp; But more reliably, get her RSS feed, add it to your <a href="http://www.google.ca/reader/">google reader</a> and never again be without the wisdom of this brilliant mediator and negotiation trainer and consultant.&nbsp; That's her smiling face at top.&nbsp; Visit her often! at <a href="http://mediationchannel.com">The Mediation Channel</a>.</p>
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<p>Conflict is in the house.&nbsp; The evil fairy surrounded the castle with deadly thorns.&nbsp; The &quot;good&quot; fairy put everyone in the castle to sleep.&nbsp; Will you be the valiant Prince in your own dispute story?&nbsp; Or are you the prize?&nbsp; The beautiful one who would prefer to remain unconscious rather than address the great battle between good and evil represented here?&nbsp; Did you hire a lawyer to resolve your dispute for you?&nbsp; Will he make it to the castle in time?&nbsp; Or will he spend the bulk of his energy erecting more obstacles to prevent your adversary from reaching you.&nbsp; By the time both champions reach the castle, will everyone be too bloodied and broke to rise from your bed and put your house back in order?</p>
<p>Choose carefully and read the entire post at the Commercial ADR Blog:&nbsp; <a href="http://bizadr.com/2010/01/21/the-other-adr-risk-management-for-the-cloud/">The Other ADR:&nbsp; Risk Management for the Cloud</a>.</p>]]></description>
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         <title>Do Attorneys&apos; &quot;Get in the Way&quot; of Mediator Assisted Negotiations?</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="right" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/Indras-Net.jpg" alt="" style="width: 261px; height: 203px;" />The not so secret opinion among mediators is that attorneys <em>make settlement more di</em><em>fficult.&nbsp; </em>Just as lawyers are heard to say that &quot;litigation would be <em>great</em>&nbsp;if it just weren't for the <em>clients</em>&quot; (a &quot;problem&quot; only class action plaintiffs' lawyers have actually <em>resolved</em>), mediators&nbsp; tend to say &quot;mediation would <em>great</em>&nbsp;if it weren't for the <em>lawyers.&quot; </em></p>
<p>Esteeming the rule of law in America as I&nbsp;do (<a href="http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2007/aug/03/lawfare-amid-warfare/">especially in the recent era of its greatest peril</a>) I have never seen <em>lawyers </em>as a problem&nbsp;in facilitating settlement of the lawsuits they have been eating, drinking, sleeping and,&nbsp;<em>dating</em>&nbsp;for years longer than I've spent reading their briefs and engaging in some pre-mediation telephone discussions. &nbsp;</p>
<p>I can't say lawyers are a problem because: &nbsp;(1) they're my job; and, (2) they're&nbsp;&quot;my people&quot; in the &quot;tribal&quot; sense.&nbsp; A few bad apples aside, lawyers are among the hardest working, most ethical, creative, multi-talented professionals I know. &nbsp;And&nbsp;they are pretty much solely responsible for fighting the battle, on every common weekday, to preserve the rule of law as a bulwark against tyranny on the right and anarchy on the left.</p>
<p>It was therefore no surprise to see a recent Harvard Negotiation Journal article (thanks to <a href="http://www.adrtoolbox.com/biography.php">Don Philbin</a> of the <a href="http://www.karlbayer.com/blog/">Disputing Blog</a> and his<a href="http://www.adrtoolbox.com/index.php"> indispensable ADR Toolbox</a>) that one group of academics has asked whether attorneys have a <a href="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/file/The Negative Impact of Attorneys on Mediation Outcomes -- A Myth or a Reality.pdf">Negative Impact . . . on Mediation Outcomes</a>.</p>
<p>Let's start with this particularly widespread canard from the article:</p>
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<p><em>Attorneys may delay the settlement of a dispute through mediation for financial reasons. For example, the payment of professional fees on the basis of hours worked could motivate the attorney to delay the settlement of the dispute to increase the number of hours billed to the client&nbsp; (citations omitted).&nbsp; Such non financial reasons as a desire to build or preserve a reputation for &ldquo;hardball negotiating&rdquo; in highly publicized cases could also motivate an attorney to delay settlement of the dispute [which the authors don't mention often results in a far better outcome for the client].&nbsp;&nbsp; In addition, attorneys&rsquo; (or their clients&rsquo;) commitment to or belief in their case based on questions of justice or other principles [which are worth, in my opinion, greater attention that purely monetary outcomes] could also delay settlement until &ldquo;defending the principle becomes too costly&rdquo; (citation omitted). Finally, attorneys may wish to justify both their role and their fees with unnecessary interactions./1</em></p>
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<p>Are we mendacious, self-serving, parasites of the &quot;justice system,&quot; feathering our own comfortable nests as we attempt to preserve the &quot;outdated&quot; notion that the justice system is capable of delivering justice? I don't believe so, but let's not get all anecdotal about these questions when we have cold, hard statistics within reach.&nbsp; What were the <em>results </em>of this study on the way in which attorneys might &quot;get in the way of&quot; a successful mediation?</p>
<p>Here's the bottom line assessment (please read the article yourself to draw your own conclusions).</p>
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<p><em>The empirical data we collected in this study indicate that the presence of an attorney in a mediation does not significantly affect the settlement rate, the time needed to reach an agreement, the perceived fairness of the process, the parties&rsquo; level of satisfaction with the agreement, or the parties&rsquo; level of trust that the agreement will be honored. These results indicate that attorneys have much less impact than is claimed by those mediators who do not welcome their involvement in the mediation process.</em></p>
<p><em>Nevertheless, the results also demonstrate that the presence of an attorney does affect mediation outcomes in at least two ways: by reducing the parties&rsquo; level of satisfaction with the mediator&rsquo;s performance and by reducing the level of reconciliation between parties. </em></p>
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<p>So the Myth Busters of this study conclude that attorneys:</p>
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    <li>don't &quot;significantly affect the settlement rate&quot; /2</li>
    <li>don't significantly affect &quot;the perceived fairness of the process&quot;;</li>
    <li>don't significantly affect &quot;the parties' level of satisfaction with the agreement; and,</li>
    <li>don't significantly affect the &quot;parties' level of trust that the agreement will be honored.&quot;</li>
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<p>This is the subjective viewpoint of the <em>litigants, </em>mind you, in a dynamic where the mediator often openly attributes the success of the mediation to the clients' attorney - an observation which is more deeply true than most mediators would care to admit with all their white horse hi-ho silver, magic bullet off-to the-rescue enthusiasm.</p>
<p>What did litigants report to the authors of this article?&nbsp; They indicated that attorneys adversely affected mediation outcomes in two ways:&nbsp; (1)&nbsp; they reduced the parties' &quot;level of satisfaction with the mediator's performance&quot;; and, (2) they &quot;reduced the level of reconciliation between the parties.&quot;</p>
<p>Of all of the purported effects of attorneys' presence at mediation - without whom, it must be noted, the parties would not likely be induced to sit down and mediate at all -- the only significant perceived difference is the failure of the mediation process to reconcile the parties - something in which the legal system has little to no interest.</p>
<p>Please read the article for proposed solutions to the reconciliation issue.&nbsp; As to the remainder of the study's findings, I&nbsp;have this to say:</p>
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    <li>whenever two or more people are gathered together, the dynamics of the group more profoundly affect the outcome than do the contributions of any individual member of the group.&nbsp; Our &quot;reality,&quot; especially as it appears in a group setting, is &quot;co-created.&quot;&nbsp; See the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/10/weekinreview/10kershaw.html">New York Times must-read article on the Psychology of Terrorism </a>and <a href="http://books.google.com/books?hl=en&amp;lr=&amp;id=84oLY-OYyaAC&amp;oi=fnd&amp;pg=PA215&amp;dq=reality+is+co-created&amp;ots=v6hBlrabpO&amp;sig=_fxjwV354u3g_UWZ9w37ktmwT4A#v=onepage&amp;q=reality%20is%20co-created&amp;f=false">Retail Marketing at Google Books</a> (the latter noting that because people live in a social world which is co-created in social interaction with others . . . . [they] can be thought of as both products and producers of the social world.&quot;&nbsp; <em>Id. </em>at 218.)</li>
    <li>try as you may, you will never be able to untangle the threads that create the intricate tapestry of a settlement; every member contributes something invaluable without which the precise result could not possibly have been achieved.&nbsp;</li>
    <li><em>who </em>is therefore responsible for the <em>good </em>and who responsible for the purportedly <em>bad </em>results of mediation?&nbsp; That's easy:&nbsp; <em>EVERYONE IS.</em></li>
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<p>That being the case, we are <em>all </em>responsible for our outcomes - whether our contribution is &quot;negative,&quot; i.e., <em>resisting settlement, </em>for instance, or &quot;positive,&quot; i.e., <em>problem solving the reasons given by Mr. Negative that the case simply can't settle on terms acceptable to all.</em>&nbsp;&nbsp;Remember your University philosophy class? Thesis, Antithesis, Synthesis. &nbsp;We need people willing to state the negative to problem solve it positively. &nbsp;The <em>relationships&nbsp;</em>cause the outcome, not one member of a group unless that member is a tyrant with loyal troops at his command.&nbsp;</p>
<p>If you'll allow me a literary reference that justifies my own collegiate career and says far more eloquently than I ever could why we're <em>all accountable, </em>I first give you one of my favorite authors, <a href="http://www.stuartpilkington.co.uk/paulauster/">Paul Auster</a> (who you may remember as the screenwriter of the movie <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0114478/">Smoke</a>).</p>
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<meta charset="utf-8"><em>The world can never be assumed to exist.&nbsp; It comes into being only in the act of moving towards it.&nbsp; Ese est&nbsp;percipii.&nbsp; Nothing can be taken for granted:&nbsp; we do not find&nbsp; ourselves in the midst of an already established world, we do not, as if by preordained birthright, automatically take possession of our surroundings.&nbsp; Each moment,each thing, must be earned, wrested away from the confusion of inert matter, by a steadiness of gaze, a purity of perception so intense that the effort, in itself,&nbsp;takes on the value of a religious act.&nbsp;&nbsp;The slate has&nbsp;&nbsp;been wiped clean. It is up to [us] to write [our] own book.</em>&nbsp;<a href="http://www.paulauster.co.uk/" style="text-decoration: none; color: rgb(51, 102, 170);">Paul Auster</a>,<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp;</span><a href="http://epc.buffalo.edu/authors/reznikoff/decisivemoment.html" style="text-decoration: none; color: rgb(51, 102, 170);">The Decisive Moment</a><span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp;</span>from<span class="Apple-converted-space">&nbsp;</span><a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0140267506/qid=1112735379/sr=1-68/ref=sr_1_68?v=glance&amp;tag2=paulaustert06-20" style="text-decoration: none; color: rgb(51, 102, 170);">The Art of Hunger.</a>       </meta>
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<p>The second excerpt I will leave for your thoughtful consideration is by the greatest scholar of comparative religions to ever inhabit the planet - <a href="http://www.jcf.org/new/index.php">Joseph Campbell</a> (skip the intro with the new age music).</p>
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<p><em><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">Schopenhauer, in his splendid essay called &quot;On an Apparent  Intention in the Fate of the Individual,&quot; points out that when you reach  an advanced age and look back over your lifetime, it can seem to have had a consistent  order and plan, as though composed by some novelist. Events that when they occurred  had seemed accidental and of little moment turn out to have been indispensable  factors in the composition of a consistent plot. So who composed that plot? Schopenhauer  suggests that just as your dreams are composed by an aspect of yourself of which  your consciousness is unaware, so, too, your whole life is composed by the will  within you. And just as people whom you will have met apparently by mere chance  became leading agents in the structuring of your life, so, too, will you have  served unknowingly as an agent, giving meaning to the lives of others, The whole  thing gears together like one big symphony, with everything unconsciously structuring  everything else. And Schopenhauer concludes that it is as though our lives were  the features of the one great dream of a single dreamer in which all the dream  characters dream, too; so that everything links to everything else, moved by the  one will to life which is the universal will in nature.</font></em></p>
<p><em><font face="Trebuchet MS, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif">It&rsquo;s  a magnificent idea &ndash; an idea that appears in India in the mythic image of  the Net of Indra, which is a net of gems, where at every crossing of one thread  over another there is a gem reflecting all the other reflective gems. Everything  arises in mutual relation to everything else, so you can&rsquo;t blame anybody  for anything. It is even as though there were a single intention behind it all,  which always makes some kind of sense, though none of us knows what the sense  might be, or has lived the life that he quite intended.</font></em></p>
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<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Power-Myth-Joseph-Campbell/dp/0385418868"><em>Joseph Campbell - The Power of Myth, with Bill Moyers</em></a>, as quoted in <a href="http://www.whidbey.com/parrott/">Derek Parrott's Blog</a>.</p>
<p>Lawyers, mediators, clients, experts, consultants, legal assistants, and, yes, even your spouse with whom you consulted before today's mediation, every one of them is part of the &quot;net of gems, where at every crossing of one thread over another there is a gem reflecting all the other reflective gems [so that] [e]verything arises in mutual relation to everything else, so you can't blame anybody for anything&quot; <em>and, </em>by the&nbsp; way, we can't credit credit nor bear all the responsibility for anything.&nbsp; We are all capable.&nbsp; We are all accountable.&nbsp; And we all contribute something to the whole.</p>
<p>So we can stop pretending to be better than we are now.&nbsp; We can all put down the burden and shame of our own entirely human fallibility; the myth that we ever do anything without the contribution of others; and, the pretense that we don't behave as badly, or as well, as other people do.&nbsp; We're part of the team.&nbsp; We're in it together.&nbsp; Isn't that <em>good </em>news for the New Year?</p>
<p>And to give you a treat from having gotten this far, a scene that is all about seeing, from Paul Auster's <em>Smoke</em>.</p>
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<p>1/ I'd be interested, of course, in what the authors consider to be &quot;unnecessary interactions.&quot;</p>
<p>2/ This is a particularly interesting finding since <em>mediators </em>have also been found not to improve the settlement rate but only greater party satisfaction in several studies.</p>
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<p><a href="http://www.adrtoolbox.com/biography.php">Don Philbin</a>, the author of this must-read article (click on the image for the .pdf) on the reasons you walk away from negotiations fearing you've either left money on the table or paid too much for what you receive in exchange, is an attorney-mediator, negotiation consultant and trainer, and arbitrator.&nbsp; </p>
<p>Don has resolved disputes and crafted deals for more than 20 years as a commercial litigator, general counsel and president of communications and technology-related companies.&nbsp; Don has <a href="http://www.adrtoolbox.com/mediation.php">mediated hundreds of matters in a wide variety of substantive areas</a> and <a href="http://www.adrtoolbox.com/arbitration.php">serves as an arbitrator on several panels</a>. He is an <a href="http://law.pepperdine.edu/straus/">adjunct professor at the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution</a> at Pepperdine Law School, Chair of the ABA Dispute Resolution Section&rsquo;s Negotiation Committee, and a member of the ADR Section Council of the State Bar of Texas. </p>
<p>Don is listed in The Best Lawyers in America (Dispute Resolution), The Best Lawyers in San Antonio, and the Bar Register of Preeminent Lawyers.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.adrtoolbox.com/">Don's ADR Toolbox</a> where this article can also be found is an indispensable resource for all attorneys negotiating the settlement of a lawsuit or a business deal (wait a minute!&nbsp; the negotiation of a settlement <em>is&nbsp;</em>a business deal!)</p>
<p>And, it's not inconsequential that Don is one of the nicest guys I know.&nbsp; If you're going to spend a day or a week or a month with a mediator or an arbitrator, you deserve not only the brightest, most wise and best prepared arbitrator or mediator, you also deserve to have a little fun in the process because . . . you know . . . the money simply isn't worth the unhappiness that comes when dealing with . . . . the <em>other </em>sort too often.</p>
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