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Negotiating the Resolution of Civil Harassment Complaints

It's good to step into a small claims or limited jurisdiction court from time to time to see how ordinary people's disputes are resolved, usually without counsel. 

Yesterday, as I sat in the small claims department of a local branch court, I wondered why the one-hour court trial I was observing hadn't been resolved in mediation.  Both parties to the fender-bender resulting only in property damage admitted they "hadn't been looking" when one pulled out of a parking spot and the other backed into him. 

The damages didn't require an adversarial process either.  There were quotations for repair on both sides as well as estimates of the vehicle's fair market value.  It was plain that the plaintiff had used comps that weren't truly comparable -- luxury cars vs. his own stripped down model. 

I had to leave before the Court rendered its judgment but I was pretty sure the Plaintiff wasn't going to understand why he'd lost (the result I assumed).  He spoke the language poorly and had a weak grasp of the proceedings going on about him.  It is on occasions like this that I believe mediation is better able to deliver justice than the court is if you define justice as a fair result arising from a fair procedure that all parties understand and are capable of a meaningfully engagement with. 

Before the judgment was rendered, the clerk whispered in the Judges ear that the "mediator is here; with a trainee and a law student."  He took a break to tell the (unrepresented) civil harassment parties that "there is a mediator in Court willing to help you resolve your dispute without charge."  I introduced myself briefly, along with my "assistants" as the Judge told the assembled parties that it's difficult to obtain an injunction (burden of proof:  clear and convincing evidence) but a very bad result for any defendant against whom one is granted.  The Judge did a good job, I thought, in quickly instructing the parties on the "up" and "down" sides of using the adversarial process instead of mediation, assuring them all that they could return to him for a judgment if the matters didn't settle.

These are people, not lawyers, and people's disputes rarely fail to settle when they're able to tell their story in an atmosphere of hope and safety.  When their "opponent" listens to them respectfully for the first time ever.  When they don't feel as if the police officer or court official or social service agency is listening with only half their attention.  They speak quickly to me outside the courthouse door when trying to decide whether to use my free services or have the day in court they've already paid for -- filing fees and costs of service - never a small expense for the people who find themselves here, hopeful and afraid.  They thrust their documentary evidence at me in the hallway.  If they don't get it all in right now I may not listen to them later.  They are strident or trembling; self-righteous or humble, but none of them truly believe anyone is going to actually hear and understand their predicament.  

I suggest they try to resolve the matter by way of agreement.  I assure them that I will not permit them to feel unsafe; telling them they can ask for a break the very moment they begin to feel uncomfortable.   I will follow them out of the conference room and we will talk about what is troubling them right away.  No, now is not the time to tell their entire story but that time is near.  All we have to do is take the elevator up to the next floor where the ADR office and its single meeting room are located.  I assure them again that they can come back to the Court later that day if I cannot help them resolve their dispute themselves.  They are all of the firm belief that they will be back in court.  The other side is "lying," ruthless, malicious, and will will attempt to manipulate me, the mediator. 

Mediation "will never work," they say to a person.  And yet, the woman in the black suit is beginning to seem less threatening, more approachable, more hopeful, than the Judge in the polyester robe.

O.K., they agree.  They will give it a shot.  I'm so earnest, I sometimes feel that they do it for me as much as for themselves.  That's OK, they have no reason to hope yet.  It is enough that I do.  I am undeviating in my faith that when I call upon people's higher angels, they will respond.  I take pride in every individual willing to sit at a table across from their adversary and have a conversation.  Lawyers often won't do it.  Representatives of Fortune 500 corporations demur.  Nations refuse the offer.  Yet these people, nearly defenseless, are  brave enough to sit with the enemy and will, I know, also be wise enough, honest enough, and respectful enough, to take their destiny into their own hands and make a better decision in conversation with one another than any third-party "decider" possibly could.

Tomorrow:  the mediations.

The statutory basis for Civil Harassment Injunctive relief is here, along with at least one case holding that a single act of battery that occurred in the past and does not present a credible threat of future violence does not support the issuance of a civil harassment restraining order or injunction.

Here are some resources to assist individuals who believe they are victims of civil harassment:

How to Obtain a Civil Harassment Order (prepared by UCLA)

California Courts Self-Help Center:  Civil Harassment

County of Los Angeles (Long Beach) Pamphlet on Civil Harassment Orders

Amador County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

Santa Clara County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

Sacramento County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

San Francisco County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

Shasta County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

Marin County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

Fresno County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

Los Angeles County Superior Court Information on Civil Harassment Orders

WomensLaw.org Information on Restraining Orders

 

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sandra upchurch - July 29, 2009 2:47 PM

This is so very well written. I especially could relate to your earnestnes (is that a word?) and your unwavering faith in the mediation process. I have felt that way also and feel as though on occasion my enthusiasm was the only thing keeping people at the table. And then much to my surprise, what happens next? A breakthrough and the case gets settled. What a feeling!! Great article - cannot wait to read Part II.

Vickie Pynchon - July 29, 2009 3:18 PM

Thanks, Sandra. It's always good to hear from you. Part II is hiding under the title The Cop The President The Professor and Civil Harassment Mediation here:

http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/2009/07/articles/mediation/the-cop-the-president-the-professor-and-civil-harassment-mediation/

It was a (nice?) coincidence that the Skip Gates/Officer Crowley/Barack Obama dust-up occurred during the same week in which I mediated civil harassment petitions for the first time. My experience gave me even greater hope than I otherwise might have had that the "beer with the President" would have a positive result AND prove a beneficial "teaching moment" for the nation.

I was taught a few simple bedrock principles more than fifteen years ago upon which my mediation practice (and all other aspects of my life today) is built.

1. I don't have to believe in the existence of a higher power to appeal to my own higher angels.

2. It is enough to PRETEND to have faith - to act "as if" I do - to be the surprised recipient of faith's considerable benefits.

3. Because all of reality is co-created, you only need one person infused with hope to carry everyone else along.

4. If I'm thinking it, I'm praying for it.

So I err on the side of optimism, ask my higher power to allow me to be of service to others, and act "as if" I have faith in a beneficient power with which I can align myself to my own betterment and that of my fellows.

Because I am human and terribly fallible, I do not always live up to these principles but I nevertheless strive to act on them every day. Every day I succeed. And every day I fail. In a dual world, I believe it is enough to transform our experience of one another if enough of us simply lean toward the light.

Whatever else it might be, that is what this whole blog enterprise is actually about. Thank you so much for being a loyal and appreciative reader. You have no idea how important that is for those of us who put ourselves out here in public everyday with little acknowledgement.

Los Angeles Defense Lawyer - December 25, 2009 7:37 PM

Mediation can be the best resource folks have in all Civil cases, as a lawyer for 15 years I see it as underutilized in the Courts. Great site, keep up the good work.

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