About Us

Victoria Pynchon

As the co-founder of She Negotiates Consulting and Training, I offer my services as a keynote speaker, trainer and consultant....

She Mediates

ADR Services, Inc.

She Negotiates

She Negotiates

The 33 cent wage and income gap is unacceptable and unnecessary. So is the cliché glass ceiling. Bottom line, our...

Closing the Wage Gap Rocking Your World

As the July She Negotiates workshop nears, I realize that the one force that might discourage women from participating is the same force the workshop is designed to (and will inevitably) resolve: the effect of the recession on women's already reduced earning power.

But let's take a look at what's at stake here - your economic future.

Why this is Mission Critical

The wage and income gap is stuck at 33% despite the gains made by women in business and the professions over the past thirty years. That's simply unacceptable to me. And because I know the reason why, I've committed myself to spreading the word and teaching the skills necessary to close that gap NOW.

You Know Why the Wage Gap Persists?

I believe I do.  I'm no social scientist, but I am an expert negotiator with a master of laws degree in conflict resolution and five years of full-time experience facilitating the negotiated resolution of commercial litigation.

I've been teaching women to negotiate for the past two years and here's what I learned - both on the ground and through extensive research.

  • when researchers asked men and women to count dots on a screen until they felt they'd earned the $4, the women worked 22% longer and 10% faster than the men. In other words, the women felt the need to provide 32% more value to be entitled to the same pay as men.
  • when asked what their salary expectations are, women report expectations that are between four and 26% less than the men in their same occupation.
  • in situations where men recognize and seize the opportunity to negotiate a bonus; a raise in salary; a better line of credit; or, a higher price for their services or goods, women do not simply fail to ask, they don't know the opportunity exists.
  • women persist in in the belief that negotiation is only about money and can only be pursued in a competitive fashion; they don't realize they are negotiating something every single day - their children's education; their family relationships; collegiality in the workplace; peace on earth (no kidding).
  • when women do recognize and seize the opportunity to negotiate a benefit for themselves, they feel guilty about asking!
  • when women overcome these barriers (lowered income expectations; inability to see opportunities to negotiate; and, guilt over asking for something for themselves) they are proven and naturally better negotiators than most men because they reflexively use the negotiation methods being taught at the finest business schools in the county today - methods based upon collaboration; conversation; and, mutual problem solving for the benefit of all parties.

The month-long online course (beginning on July 19) will be taught by me and by author, actor, success whisperer and work-life balance coach, Lisa Gates.  Listen, there are a bazillion "life coaches" out there.  The term itself is something I've often simply snorted derisively at given my propensity to dismiss without investigation.  I didn't hire Lisa to coach me and she didn't hire me to teach her negotiation skills but when the two of us got together, the synergy was like . . . . cold fusion.  Together we are both many multiples more powerful than we are apart.  I'm so confident in Lisa (and frankly so confident in myself) that I guarantee you that a year from now this month-long course will cost at least two grand.


Because we're not giving women fish.  We're teaching women to fish.  And the value of that teaching; that coaching; that support; that wisdom; that insight; and, that ability to take anyone from zero to sixty in 30 seconds, is literally off the charts.

Here's my real purpose - money being just a means of storing value; keeping score; and, paying the rent.  

I want to send my women readers out into the world as skilled and effective negotiators because I know that each one of you will teach at least one other woman what you've learned and she'll teach another and that damn wage and income gap will just . . . . vanish.

That's how powerful YOU ALREADY ARE!

The moment you begin to see how many opportunities there are to negotiate for a better life for you and your family and your community; your state and your nation and your world, we'll give you the tools you need to do so. After that, it's just practice, practice, practice.

And then you will ROCK THE WORLD!

This is not just a class - this is a a movement.

Begin the journey to real economic power for yourself and your family today.


Comments (3)

Read through and enter the discussion by using the form at the end
Shayna - June 3, 2010 3:24 PM

"when women do recognize and seize the opportunity to negotiate a benefit for themselves, they feel guilty about asking! "

So true - and we're treated as if we are behaving inappropriately which reinforces the guilt - just for asking for compensation for the work we do!

Vickie Pynchon - June 3, 2010 5:59 PM

Unfortunately, Shayna, the research shows that we have reason to fear "asking." Not only do men tend to "punish" women for stepping outside their gender roles in this manner, other women do as well. Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever offer solutions to this problem in their must-read Women Don't Ask and Ask for It! both available at Amazon and on Kindle (I've got both on my iPad Kindle app)

Alexandria - June 3, 2010 8:56 PM

I can offer a personal testimonial that the course will be enriching and worthwhile. Don't just plan to take the course; plan to invest in it. Invest the time to do the homework, to do the journaling and mental part, and to practice under the guidance of your coach. The insight you gain won't just change the way you think about yourself and about negotiation -- it will drastically improve your skill and comfort with negotiation. This new power, in turn, will change your life. The course is worth the money. Think of it not only as an investment in yourself and your future, but an investment in the future of your family and your world.

Post a comment

Fill out this form to add a comment to the discussion
I'd like to leave a comment. is
  • 4media dvd ripper standard 5
  • adobe audition cs5.5 mac
  • adobe creative suite 4 web premium mac
  • autodesk building design suite ultimate 2012
  • techsmith camtasia studio 7
  • adobe flash builder 4.7 premium
  • adobe photoshop cs5 mac
  • corel wordperfect office x4 standard
  • adobe creative suite 6 production premium student and teacher edition
  • visual studio 2010 premium
  • autodesk maya 2013
  • nuance pdf converter professional 5
  • adobe cs6 production premium student and teacher edition mac
  • autodesk autocad electrical 2011
  • autodesk autocad map 3d 2009
  • pitney bowes mapinfo professional 11.5
  • adobe cs6 design standard student and teacher edition mac
  • infinite skills - learning bootstrap 2 mac
  • daz bryce 5.5
  • thegrideon access password professional 2.0
  • adobe flash professional cs5.5
  • autodesk navisworks manage 2009
  • microangelo toolset 6
  • autodesk alias design 2012 mac
  • parallels desktop 9 mac
  • futuremark 3dmark 05 pro
  • filemaker pro 11 advanced
  • adobe dreamweaver cc mac
  • infinite skills - advanced html5 training
  • autodesk autocad 2011 mac
  • excel 2010 all-in-one for dummies
  • adobe photoshop cs3 photographers guide
  • quarkxpress 10
  • camtasia studio 8
  • apple mac os x 10.8 mountain lion