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         <title>Duke v. Wal-Mart at Forbes Woman: Implicit Gender Bias and Social Science Evidence</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>For Supreme Court watchers, here's my article on <em>Duke v. Wal-Mart</em> over at the<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates"> She Negotiates ForbesWoman blog</a>, <em><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/28/walmart-discrimination-case-grapples-with-implicit-biases-against-women/">Wal-Mart Discrimination Case Grapples with Implicit Biases against Women</a></em>.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>As the New York Times&lsquo; Adam Liptak reported today, the Supreme Court will decide on Tuesday whether 1.5 million women will be permitted to proceed with their gender discrimination class action against Wal-Mart.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The high court is being asked to decide what role it believes social science research should play in determining whether implicit bias is responsible for women&rsquo;s underpay and under-representation in Wal-Mart&rsquo;s management ranks. At the center of the Supreme Court case is the testimony of Sociology Professor William T. Bielby, at University of Illinois at Chicago.</em></p>
<p>Briefs and articles for the serious student of Constitutional Law below.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.ca9.uscourts.gov/datastore/opinions/2010/04/26/04-16688.pdf">Ninth Circuit Opinion in </a><em><a href="http://www.ca9.uscourts.gov/datastore/opinions/2010/04/26/04-16688.pdf">Dukes v. Wal-Mart</a></em></p>
<p><a href="http://www.stollberne.com/ClassActionsBlog/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/Wal-Mart_s-Opening-Merits-Brief.pdf">Opening Brief</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.walmartclass.com/staticdata/10-277%20Respondents'%20Merits%20Brief.pdf">Opposition Brief</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.workplaceclassaction.com/Dukes--Merits%20Reply%20Brief.pdf">Reply Brief</a></p>
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         <description><![CDATA[<h3><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/21/negotiating-for-something-you-think-you-cant-get-show-up-in-drag/">Negotiating for Something You Think You Can&rsquo;t Get? Show Up in Drag</a><span style="font-weight: normal;">&nbsp;posted by LISA GATES</span></h3>
<p>Jane, like her male counterparts, has a big truck with her company logo plastered on the doors, lots of specialized tools and ladders, a crew of talented helpers, 20 years in the business and several pairs of Carhartt jeans and Timberland boots (NYSE:TBL).</p>
<p>When she shows up to meet potential clients, she dresses like a woman and makes sure there&rsquo;s no dirt under her fingernails. It&rsquo;s a &ldquo;presentation&rdquo; thing she says. According to Jane, if she clomps into prospective clients&rsquo; gardens wearing muck boots, it&rsquo;s as much of a turn-off to her prospective clients as it is being gay.</p>
<p>Double binds and deep and abiding biases cause many women to make extreme choices.</p>
<p><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/21/negotiating-for-something-you-think-you-cant-get-show-up-in-drag/">continue &raquo;</a></p>
<h3><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/19/what-is-the-sats-jersey-shore-essay-question-really-asking/">What is the SAT&rsquo;s &lsquo;Jersey Shore&rsquo; Essay Question Really Asking?</a><span style="font-weight: normal;">&nbsp;posted by KATIE PHILLIPS</span></h3>
<p>Last Saturday, the College Board served up a mega-curveball for high school students across America: it asked them to write an essay about reality television. The question, one out of three possible essay topics distributed at random, described reality television as programs &ldquo;which feature real people engaged in real activities rather than professional actors performing scripted scenes&rdquo; and then asked whether &ldquo;people benefit from forms of entertainment that show so-called reality, or are such forms of entertainment harmful?&rdquo;</p>
<p>Definitely not what kids who have spent countless hours brushing up on their Shakespeare, Chaucer, and Dickens had expected.</p>
<p>These are the kids that are too busy studying, playing soccer, or taking piano lessons in the hopes of receiving an acceptance letter to a great college &mdash; they don&rsquo;t have the time to watch or interest in the comings-and-goings of Jersey Shore&rsquo;s Snooki and The Situation. These are, not surprisingly, the same kids who are complaining of the question&rsquo;s &lsquo;unfairness&rsquo; &ndash; many of whom have lamented on online forums such as College Confidential that they don&rsquo;t watch any television, let alone reality shows.</p>
<p>The College Board, in response, has defended its prompt; saying that it was an attempt to &ldquo;engage students&rdquo;, and that &ldquo;everything a student needs to write a successful essay is included in the prompt itself.&rdquo; Meaning, they&rsquo;re not grading students on how well they can opine about the Kardashians, but rather how well they can structure an essay.</p>
<p><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/19/what-is-the-sats-jersey-shore-essay-question-really-asking/">continue &raquo;</a></p>
<h3><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/19/money-power-and-self-determination-make-women-unhappy/">Money, Power, and Self-Determination Make Women Unhappy</a>&nbsp;<span style="font-weight: normal;">posted by VICTORIA PYNCHON</span></h3>
<p>That&rsquo;s what author Suzanne Venker&rsquo;s saying in her new book The Flipside of Feminism.
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Forty years have passed since the so-called women&rsquo;s movement claimed to liberate women from preconceived notions of what it means to be female &ndash; and the results are in. The latest statistics from the National Bureau of Economic Research show that &ldquo;as women have gained more freedom, more education, and more power, they have become less happy.&rdquo;</em></p>
<p>Over at Washington Whispers, Paul Bedard has pulled from Venker&rsquo;s book, <strong><em>Five Ways That Feminism Has Ruined America</em></strong></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px; "><em>It hurt marriage. Women want to wait so that they can keep their identities longer and men are finding easy sex, taking away a big reason for marriage.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px; "><em>Emasculates men. It&rsquo;s better to be a wuss than speak up or mouth off and face charges of harassment or chauvinism.</em></p>
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<h3><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/18/the-internet-freedom-of-speech-and-the-anti-gay-app/">The Internet, Freedom of Speech and the Anti-Gay App</a>&nbsp;<span style="font-weight: normal;">posted by VICTORIA PYNCHON</span></h3>
<p>Pressure is mounting on Apple (NASDAQ:AAPL) to rid its store of an Anti-Gay App. Over at the Huffington Post, Wayne Bessen writes that Exodus International, the largest Christian organization offering a &ldquo;cure&rdquo; for homosexuality, is bragging that Apple gave it a 4+ rating, signifying the absence of &ldquo;offensive content.&rdquo;</p>
<p>I downloaded the Exodus App today to see whether it contained something akin to hate speech which has been variously defined as any communication which disparages a person or a group on the basis of some characteristic such as race or sexual orientation; or attacks or disparages a person or group of people based on their social or ethnic group.</p>
<p>At the risk of putting myself at the center of a firestorm of disapproval, I have to say that what I viewed and read on the Exodus app was not hate speech but simply the expression of religious beliefs with which I, and many other people, disagree.</p>
<p>Exodus International appears to be a non-denominational religious organization that believes homosexuality is a sin. It also promotes the idea that this sin can be relieved by establishing a spiritual relationship with Jesus.</p>
<p><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/03/18/the-internet-freedom-of-speech-and-the-anti-gay-app/">continue &raquo;</a></p>
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         <title>Think: Book of Business: Attend: NAWMBA&apos;S Emerging Women Executives Summit this May</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>This is an event not to be missed.<a href="http://www.mbawomen.org/"> The National Association of Women MBA's 2011 Summit for Emerging Executives</a> - <a href="http://www.mbawomen.org/">Helping Businesswomen Navigate the Climb</a>.</p>
<p>Women lawyers - this is a great networking opportunity.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.mbawomen.org/2011-summit-emerging-executives">Meet your future in Orlando</a>.</p>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p>Before taking a look at this video, please check out the services of <a href="http://www.facebook.com/EdwinDuterte">Edwin Duterte</a> of <a href="http://www.theviralpublicity.com/">The Viral Publicity</a> who conducts the interview below and who appeared on <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XYr9RBObZp8">CNNLive's 30-minute pitch segment</a> (which you can also see below).</p>
<p>Edwin turned around two highly professional videos in less than a week after he conducted them. His company is in start-up mode and he's actively seeking both capital partners and clients. I highly recommend his work, and not just because he gave me two free videos. We'll be hiring his company to provide us with publicity before the month is over . . . we just have to<em> negotiate the terms!</em></p>
<p>Without further ado, Edwin and <a href="http://shenegotiates.com">She Negotiates</a>.</p>
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         <title>Yes, You Should Ask for a Raise or Increase Your Rates This Year</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p>See the series of articles on the topic over at <a href="http://www.forbes.com/forbeswoman/">ForbesWoman</a> ~&nbsp;<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/22/why-every-woman-should-ask-for-a-raise-this-year/">Why Every Woman Should Ask for a Raise this Year</a>; and, <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/23/why-we-women-fail-to-ask-for-raises-and-what-happens-when-we-do/">Why We Women Fail to Ask for Raises and What Happens When We Do</a>, most of which is also applicable to men. &nbsp;Excerpt from the first article below:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>You deserve a raise this year because you are working harder, longer and faster than you were before the recession. And as msnbc reported in 2009, you are doing so for less, not more, money.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>&nbsp;</em><em>That means you are not only doing your own job, you&rsquo;re also doing the jobs your laid off colleagues were doing. You&rsquo;ll be difficult to replace because of that. Not only because John and Mary&rsquo;s jobs are not in your historic employment description, but because fewer people will want to take on the work you&rsquo;re doing now for the salary you&rsquo;re now being paid.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>&nbsp;</em><em>Your employer may need to hire two people to replace you. He or she will also have to incur the expense of hiring one or more new employees.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>&nbsp;</em><em>You are more valuable than you believe yourself to be. You therefore have more bargaining strength than you believe yourself to have.</em></p>
<p>How to ask for a raise over at <em><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/">She Negotiates</a></em> tomorrow.</p>]]></description>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p>We kicked off the new year over at <a href="http://www.forbes.com/forbeswoman/">ForbesWoman</a> this past Sunday with my short think-post on gay marriage and the razor's edge on which we women negotiate for ourselves - both of which I tied to our fear of losing the benefits and the restraining influences of traditional gender roles. &nbsp;See <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/02/negotiating-sex-and-gender/"><em>Negotiating Sex and Gender</em></a><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/02/negotiating-sex-and-gender/"> here</a>. There's also a bit of instructive back-and-forth in the <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/02/negotiating-sex-and-gender/#post_comments">comments</a> on the question whether the income gap is a systemic problem or simply the result of women being . . . well . . . lazy bitches. Those who know me well can marvel at my admirable restraint.</p>
<p>On Monday, The Daily Asker, Roxana Popescu, penned the most popular <em>She Negotiates</em>&nbsp;post of the week - <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/03/six-things-every-women-should-ask-for-in-2011/"><em>Six Things Every Woman Should Ask for in 2011</em></a>. Roxana is a black-belt "asker," taking the opportunity to negotiate literally&nbsp;<em>everything. </em>She'll be adding six more categories of "asks" over at our ForbesWoman blog today so keep an eye peeled for it.</p>
<p>And though Roxana doesn't know it yet, we're planning on having her lead day-long bargaining expeditions in 2011 for those who don't notice the dozens of opportunities that present themselves to us every day for a little haggling. Stay tuned for that announcement over at our <a href="http://shenegotiates.com">home She Negotiates site</a>. For more information on Roxana's "asking" quest, see <em><a href="http://thedailyasker.blogspot.com/2008/07/can-i-ask-for-something-everyday-for.html">Day One: &nbsp;Can I Ask for Something Every Day for a Yea</a></em>r.</p>
<p>On Tuesday, <em>She Negotiates</em> rested so that Wednesday could bring you<em><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/05/forget-resolutions-disrupt-and-execute-in-2011/"> Forget Resolutions: Disrupt and Execute in 2011</a></em>, by <a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/about-lisa-gates/"><em>She Negotiates</em></a><a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/about-lisa-gates/"> co-founder Lisa Gates</a>. I'd just been telling a book publicist how I'd been dying the death of a thousand book promotion cuts. A couple of hundred here, a thousand there, went out to consultants in 2010 who simply threw me back on my own promotional resources with a little advice about working different or harder. That's what I hired <em>you</em> for! If you're suffering from a similar consultant-overload dis-ease, go no further than consulting with Lisa Gates where the focus is <em>implement and execute</em>. She changed my life. Let her change yours for the better in 2011.</p>
<p>Yesterday, our Gen-Y blogger Katie Phillips, recently graduated from the <a href="http://www.tisch.nyu.edu/page/home.html">Tisch School of Arts at NYU</a>, wrote in despair and celebration of entering the unknown in <em><a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/shenegotiates/2011/01/06/negotiating-uncertainty-gen-y-women-are-busy-being-born/">Negotiating Uncertainty: Gen-Y Women are Busy Being Born</a></em>. Our boomer readers will see themselves in the same circumstances thirty or forty years ago, but this post is not for us. It's Gen-Y to Gen-Y and one of the finest pieces of writing you're likely to see anywhere on ForbesWoman. Really. Check it out.</p>
<p>With part 2 of Roxana's six tips for 2011 today, we'll close the week in asking, haggling, bargaining, negotiating, trading, and bartering for the first week of the new year. Please let us know which topics would be most useful to you for us to cover as we make 2011 not just the Year of Recovery, but the Year of Abundance!&nbsp;</p>]]></description>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="left" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/AngelaHaskins.jpg" style="width: 236px; height: 165px;" alt="" />Congratulations are in order to attorney Angela Haskins who is not only being installed as the President of the <a href="http://wlala.org/">Women Lawyers Association of Los Angeles</a> this Thursday evening, but who has had the wisdom to create a section for women in ADR ~ an idea whose time has come.</p>
<p>Angela was <a href="http://shenegotiates.squarespace.com/storage/AngelaHaskins.pdf">profiled in the Daily Journal today here</a>.&nbsp; As that profile noted,</p>
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<p><em><span>Drawing on her years  of experience in alternate dispute  resolution, [Angela] is creating a section  on women in ADR. The  association has many ADR professionals in its  membership, she noted,  but this will be the first time it has had a  section dedicated to women  who have made great inroads into what had  become a male-dominated  practice. </span></em></p>
<p><em><span> Haskins also will keep a eye on addressing the changing  dynamics  affecting women lawyers. Two years ago, she said, WLALA  President Kathy  Forester of Munger, Tolles &amp; Olson created a joint  task force for  women, focusing on how to make partner, stay partner and  to make that be  an important part of their career. </span></em></p>
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<p><span>I'll be chairing the ADR Committee this year.&nbsp; As part of  Angela's Empowerment theme, the ADR Committee's activities will be  highlighting its own &quot;Women Do Refer&quot; initiative ~ details here and at <a href="http://shenegotiates.squarespace.com/blog/wlala.org">WLALA's web page here</a> soon.</span></p>
<p><span>CONGRATULATIONS TO ANGELA!</span></p>]]></description>
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         <title>Who&apos;s Too Big to Fail?  We Are!</title>
         <description><![CDATA[<p><a class="journal-entry-navigation-current" href="http://shenegotiates.squarespace.com/blog/2010/9/15/forget-the-recession-nows-the-best-time-to-ask-for-a-raise-o.html">Cross-posted at She Negotiates</a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.wellsfargo.com/about/corporate/executive_officers/stumpf"><span class="full-image-float-left ssNonEditable"><span><img align="left" src="http://shenegotiates.squarespace.com/storage/stumpf.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1284566430198" style="width: 123px; height: 167px;" alt="" /></span></span></a></p>
<p>What does this man have that you don't?</p>
<p>A year-end 2009 salary of $21,340,547 during one of the worst year's in the history of his industry ~ banking.</p>
<p><strong>Listen!&nbsp; The recession is just another <em>excuse </em>for not paying you what you're worth.</strong></p>
<p>How do we know?</p>
<p>Because the most effective negotiators on the planet ~ corporate  CEO's ~ are finding the downturn to be the best time to squeeze every  last living dollar out of <em>their </em>employers.</p>
<p>If they can do it, so can you!</p>
<p>&nbsp;<a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/">Here's the evidence</a>:</p>
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            <td width="82"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_bankofamerica_2010.cfm"><img border="0" width="75" height="75" src="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/images/casestudies_icon_bankofamerica.jpg" alt="" /></a></td>
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            <div align="left"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_bankofamerica_2010.cfm">Bank of America Corp</a>.<br />
            Thomas Montag<br />
            2009 Total Compensation: $29,930,431</div>
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            <td width="78"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_jpmorganchase.cfm"><img border="0" width="75" height="75" src="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/images/casestudies_icon_jcmorganchase.jpg" alt="" /></a></td>
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            <div align="left"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_jpmorganchase.cfm">JPMorgan Chase &amp; Co.</a><br />
            James Dimon<br />
            2009 Total Compensation: <br />
            $9,274,494</div>
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            <td><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_citigroup.cfm"><img border="0" width="75" height="75" src="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/images/casestudies_icon_citigroup.jpg" alt="" /></a></td>
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            <div align="left"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_citigroup.cfm">Citigroup Inc.</a><br />
            John Havens<br />
            2009 Total Compensation: $11,276,454</div>
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            <td><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_morganstanley.cfm"><img border="0" width="75" height="75" src="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/images/casestudies_icon_morganstanley.jpg" alt="" /></a></td>
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            <div align="left"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_morganstanley.cfm">Morgan Stanley</a><br />
            Walid Chammah<br />
            2009 Total Compensation: $10,021,969</div>
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            <td><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_goldmansachs.cfm"><img border="0" width="75" height="75" src="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/images/casestudies_icon_goldensachs.jpg" alt="" /></a></td>
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            <div align="left"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_goldmansachs.cfm">The Goldman Sachs Group Inc</a>.<br />
            Lloyd Blankfein<br />
            2009 Total Compensation: $9,862,657</div>
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            <td><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_wellsfargo.cfm"><img border="0" width="75" height="75" src="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/images/casestudies_icon_wellsfargo.jpg" alt="" /></a></td>
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            <div align="left"><a href="http://www.aflcio.org/corporatewatch/paywatch/retirementsecurity/case_wellsfargo.cfm">Wells Fargo</a><br />
            John Stumpf<br />
            2009 Total Compensation: $21,340,547</div>
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<p>&nbsp;Whhaaaaaatttttt? do these men have that you don't have?</p>
<ul>
    <li>Social networks with rich and powerful people who sit on their  Boards of Directors and influence policy makers and Wall Street power  brokers</li>
    <li>The self-created illusion that they are &quot;too big to fail&quot; /1</li>
    <li>The persuasive argument that only they, with their unique  combination of experience, education, knowledge, savvy, can-do-spirit,  and leadership qualities can pull these banks out of the sinkhole of the  recession.</li>
    <li>Friends in <em>very high </em>places.</li>
    <li><em>Chutzpah</em> and shamelessness (not that we'd want to encourage this second character flaw in our readers).</li>
    <li>Self-satisfaction.</li>
    <li>Entitlement.</li>
    <li>An employment history of asking for and receiving increasing levels  of compensation based upon their salary negotiations at every career  point possible (and every career point <em>impossible</em>)</li>
    <li>the demonstrated ability to produce results (our readers <em>do </em>possess this strength but haven't used it to their greatest advantage <em>yet</em>)</li>
    <li>the tendency to measure their market value by their value in the  hands of their employer, not by what they &quot;need&quot; or what they are  &quot;worth&quot; according to some <em>internal metric </em>that depends upon how they <em>feel </em>about thier accomplishments.</li>
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<p>__________________</p>
<p>1/&nbsp; This is where collective action comes in.&nbsp; When we aggregate  together America's employees, small business owners and homeowners, we  get a non-corporate &quot;entity&quot; that is waaaayyyyyy bigger than some  little piss-ant bank and it is <em>we who are too big to fail.</em></p>]]></description>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><em>&quot;Victoria Pynchon's negotiation skills crush  cultural bias,   gender barriers and even fears about the tumultuous  economy. She taught   me to conquer my fears with courage and navigate  contentious   negotiation, while demanding my market value. &nbsp;Her  one-on-one   supportive coaching techniques trump transformation. Working  with her   has triggered a personal evolutionary spiral into a new way of  doing   business with confidence, the fruits of which have knocked down  walls   in every part of my life. I felt supported through the entire  process   and experienced immediate results.&quot;</em></p>
<p>Judy Martin, Business Journalist &amp; Founder <a href="http://www.worklifenation.com/">WorkLifeNation.com</a></p>
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How  do we &quot;sell&quot; the nation on the idea that women's work is as valuable as  men's?  Despite the fact that 90 years have passed since women were  given the vote and 40 since an entire generation of women raised their  voices against unequal treatment under the law, we continue to make a  third of what our men do.<br />
<br />
What's up with that?  and why the Coke ad?<br />
<br />
What's  up with that is this:  we're not negotiating our true market value  because we believe it is worth one-third less than men believe their  true market value to be.  That's what the research shows.  Instead of  getting angry, let's finally &quot;get even&quot; by learning our true market  value; gathering the tools to ask for it; and, then just go get it.<br />
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That's what Lisa Gates and I are up to over at She Negotiates ~ our <a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/our-signature-course/" target="_blank">four-week online coached negotiation class for women</a>.  First, we give you the tools to re-calibrate your market value.  Then we teach you how to get it.  It's a simple as that.<br />
<br />
Why the Coke ad?<br />
<br />
Coca-Cola,  one of the most successful products ever to grace our planet, wasn't  always a world-wide beauty pageant winner.  It once had to sell itself.   It's  SODA POP for goodness sakes.  But it didn't <i>sell itself</i>   as soda pop.  It sold itself as the staff of life ~ bread.  It wasn't a  luxury ~ something our then-post-depression post-war parents were not  keen on buying.  It was a necessity.<br />
<br />
So how do we sell ourselves  as necessary to the economy and as valuable as bread and butter?  Come  on over to She Negotiates and we'll teach you how.<br />
<br />
Our next course begins on September 13 and you can take it in your jammies!  A warning:  this is no ordinary e-class.  It's <i>a lot of hard work</i>.  <br />
<br />
If  you're ready to upset the apple cart and apply a little elbow grease to  the gears and levers of a society that still fails to recognize our  value, come on by!<br />
<br />
Our best for yet another new beginning,<br />
<br />
Vickie Pynchon and Lisa Gates<br />
<a href="http://shenegotiates.com/" target="_blank">She Negotiates Consulting and Training</a></p>]]></description>
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<p><a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/women-on-the-move/2010/08/25/women-on-the-move-presents-minding-our-business">At 8 PM</a> <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/women-on-the-move/2010/08/25/women-on-the-move-presents-minding-our-business"><em>Women on the Move</em></a> gets down to business with attorney <strong>Victoria Pynchon</strong>, author of the <em>Settle It Now Negotiation Blog</em>,  who has been called a &ldquo;master of conflict resolution and deposition  skills.&rdquo;</p>
<p>Victoria recently became a regular contributor to <a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/vpynchon/"><em>Forbes.com&rsquo;s &ldquo;On the Docket&rdquo;</em> column</a>.</p>
<p><em><strong>You can call in with questions!&nbsp; <br />
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<p><em><strong>Call-in Number: (347) 857-2102<br />
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.fashionmefabulous.com/2009_05_01_archive.html"><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="right" alt="" style="width: 144px; height: 144px;" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/fabulous+necklace.jpg" /></a>Dear Fabulous Women Neutrals of Los Angeles:</p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><b style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">One last time!!  before the door closes on the opportunity to have your picture in the  WLALA Tribute book and to share two tables with your fellow neutrals at  the <a href="http://www.wlala.org/cde.cfm?event=315796">WLALA annual Installation Dinner and Gala</a>.</b>&nbsp;</p>
<p class="MsoNormal">I have three more places at the table and on that  ad.&nbsp; I need your check for $175 and a .jpg by Friday to put you in it!&nbsp;  Please, let's show WLALA how eager we are to <i>cross-refer business.</i></p>
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<div>This is a particularly good year to join us as we begin the first WLALA ADR initiative in its nearly 100 year history.<br />
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<img width="140" vspace="6" hspace="6" height="180" border="6" align="left" alt="" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/2032516_com_charlotte_.jpg" /><a href="http://www.law.stanford.edu/library/womenslegalhistory/">ONE HUNDRED YEARS! of women lawyers</a> - <b><i>way</i></b> past time to  reach and firmly occupy the higher reaches of the profession.&nbsp; We've  been graduating from the nation's law schools in nearly equal numbers  with men for more than 20 years.&nbsp; My own U.C. law school class (King  Hall, '80) was 50% women <i>thirty </i>years ago.<br />
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The ADR pipeline is full of competent -- indeed glorious -- women.&nbsp; Yet the statistics at the top remain grim.<br />
<br />
<b><i>Chopped Liver?</i></b><br />
<br />
Why is your ADR practice not everything that Tony Piazza's or Eric  Green's or even Steve Cerveris' is?&nbsp; Research shows that both men <i>and </i>women have <i><b style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">negative implicit attitudes toward women in leadership and authority positions</b>.&nbsp; </i>The good news is that <i>women </i>are <i>slightly less pre-disposed </i>than are men to picture a man in a suit when they're looking for access to money and power.&nbsp; I've had at least half a dozen <i>women</i> commercial litigators look straight at me and say &quot;I don't <i>know </i>any women mediators.&quot;<br />
<br />
<i><b>Huh????<br />
<br />
</b></i>Followed by, &quot;well their names are never on the lists [circulated in my firm].&quot;<br />
<br />
<b style="color: rgb(102, 0, 0);"><i>Women, with their slightly reduced inability to &quot;see&quot; women in  authority positions, are our foot in the door. And the new WLALA ADR  Committee is our opportunity to open that door wide.</i></b><br />
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<a href="http://www.cpradr.org/"><img vspace="5" hspace="5" border="5" align="left" alt="" style="width: 139px; height: 60px;" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/CPRLogo[1].gif" /></a>As a member of the <a href="http://www.cpradr.org/tabid/222/q/dvtf/default.aspx" target="_blank">CPR-led Joint Task Force on Diversity</a>, I have heard  the verdict of JAMS and the AAA.&nbsp; &quot;The market has spoken.&nbsp; Commercial  lawyers just don't hire women and minorities.&quot;<br />
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<i><b>What????</b></i><br />
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We're advocates, for goodness sakes.&nbsp; When we come into town we have to  register our skills of persuasion with local law enforcement authorities.&nbsp; We're  change agents, opinion makers, powerful holders of the keys to the  kingdom.&nbsp; <b><i><br />
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And the market has spoken?&nbsp; </i></b><br />
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<span style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">We make the market!</span></i></b><br />
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This year's ADR Committee is dedicated to closing the gaping void  between men and women neutrals.&nbsp; We're not going to ask for special  treatment, picket the LASC's ADR office, pass new laws or burn our ADR  certificates, Super Lawyer plaques, Ivy League diplomas, or our <i>bras </i>(not at <i>this </i>age!)<i>.&nbsp; <br />
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<b style="color: rgb(153, 0, 0);">We're going to market like no one  has ever marketed before and we're going to do so as a group so that we  don't each hesitate, as we women tend to do, to promote ourselves and  our services.</b></i><br />
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<img width="250" vspace="5" hspace="5" height="188" border="5" align="right" alt="" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/glassceiling.jpg" />2010 and 2011 will be the years in which <i>top women will refer to other  top women</i>.&nbsp; 2010 and 2011 will be the years in which we close the income  gap <i>not only</i> between men and women neutrals but between men and  women lawyers (its 40% at the top).&nbsp; 2010 and 2011 will be the  years in which we make a market younger women lawyers will be entering  in the next decade and the one after that -- one in which they'll  flourish after they grow weary of fighting over interrogatory objections  and e-discovery.<br />
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<i><b>How?</b></i><br />
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Marketing.&nbsp; Proctor and Gamble does&nbsp; <i>not </i>say, &quot;well, the market doesn't <i>want </i>a  new improved laundry detergent.&quot;&nbsp; P&amp;G asks &quot;how?&quot; not &quot;can we?&quot;&nbsp;  And it certainly never says &quot;we give up, the market has spoken.&quot; <br />
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We're putting our first stake in the ground on September 16 at the&nbsp; WLALA Gala.&nbsp; <i>There's no event more important for women neutrals to attend this year.&nbsp; </i><br />
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Our current attendees will appear in two full-page ads in the Tribute  Book and two color flyers to be distributed at the dinner.&nbsp; <br />
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To date those women are <span> </span><b>Eleanor Barr, Joan Kessler, Lynne Bassis, Katherine Edwards, Laurel Kaufer, Linda Klibanow, Denise Madigan, Stephanie Maloney, Deborah Rothman, Jan Frankel Schau, Gretchen Taylor, Caroline Vincent, Diane Wayne, Linda Bulmash, Lisa Gates </b>(my <a href="http://shenegotiates.com/" target="_blank"><i>She Negotiates</i></a> business partner), <b>Kathy Balin,</b> and <b>Erica Bristol.</b>&nbsp; <br />
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We need <i>three more women neutrals to fill table two.&nbsp; </i>If you want to<i> sit</i>  at another table, ask a woman litigator to change places with you while  whispering &quot;cross-refer&quot; in her ear.&nbsp; The key is that you'll be there  to network.&nbsp; You'll show your support to WLALA by showing up and WLALA  women (among the most entrepreneurial in the Bar) will see your  beautiful face and panel affiliation or business name in the&nbsp; Tribute  Book while enduring the inevitably tedious speeches at these events.&nbsp; <br />
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Do you want to double your income by 2012?&nbsp; If we've lasted this long in  a profession that was solidly male when so many of us were in high  school, we can close this gap by coming together and <i>just doing it.<br />
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</i><img width="170" vspace="5" hspace="5" height="90" border="5" align="left" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/m_62e18bb32b2f46139e470c050ac11cfd.jpg" alt="" />And if the $175 is too steep a price during these recessionary times  or if you'll be out of town or otherwise engaged on the 16th of  September, please let me know that you want to be a member of the new  WLALA Committee by return email.<br />
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Our first event will be an afternoon on arbitration in October with CPR  CEO Kathy Bryan and other powerful women attorneys, GC's and CEO's who  arbitrate, either as advocates, as clients or as arbitrators.&nbsp; The panel  will be moderated by complex-commercial AAA arbitrator Deborah Rothman.<br />
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Shock me!&nbsp; Let's fill Table Three!!<br />
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I look forward to hearing from you and to kicking the last pitiful shards out of that darn glass ceiling.<br />
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Best,<br />
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Vickie</div>
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<p>Victoria Pynchon, Esq., Incoming Chair, WLALA ADR Committee<br />
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<p>When I first dipped my big toe into mediation's waters by taking <a href="http://law.pepperdine.edu/straus/training-and-conferences/mediating-litigated-case/malibu.htm">Mediating the Litigated Case</a> in a downtown hotel ballroom back in the Spring of 2004, generous attorney-mediators like <a href="http://www.jeffkichaven.com/">Jeff Kichaven</a>, <a href="http://www.kaufermediation.com/">Laurel Kaufer</a>, <a href="http://www.adrservices.org/neutrals/robert-steinberg-ip.php">Bob Steinberg</a>, <a href="http://www.adrservices.org/neutrals/jan-schau.php">Jan Frankel Schau</a>, <a href="http://www.cerverismediation.com/">Steve Cerveris</a>, and <a href="http://www.deborahrothman.com/">Deborah Rothman</a> all arrived on the beachhead of my new profession with advice, support, empathy, and warnings.&nbsp; Starting a new profession, particularly one that is entrepreneurial, is just like moving into a new neighborhood and these wonderful mediators were my Welcome Wagon (for which I&nbsp;will always be grateful).</p>
<p>It didn't take me long to learn where the landmines were buried. And a lot of them surrounded the perimeter of the downtown <a href="http://www.lasuperiorcourt.org/">Los Angeles Superior Court</a>.&nbsp; There's an <a href="http://www.lasuperiorcourt.org/adr/UI/index.aspx">mediation <em>pro bono</em> panel</a> there where new mediators can first practice their new trade, learning the skills, picking up best practices, and, beginning to build a reputation for excellence among the litigation and trial bar.&nbsp; This was all good and I was grateful for the opportunity to have cases referred to me to test my new-found mediation knowledge and growing skill-set.&nbsp; Never mind that I was <em>paid </em>to practice my new <em>legal </em>trade as soon as I'd passed the Bar.&nbsp; I&nbsp;understood that this was a kind of internship and I&nbsp;was happy for the opportunity to serve.</p>
<p>My new mentors, however, as well as pretty much everyone else I met, had some dire warnings about conflict between panel mediators and the Superior Court.&nbsp; Conflict?!?&nbsp; By May of 2004 (a month after I'd finished my first mediation class) I'd enrolled in the Master of Laws program at the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution, not because I thought it would give me a necessary credential, but because I was <em>on fire </em>for this new field of study.&nbsp;</p>
<p>How could there be simmering <em>conflict </em>in a community of conflict resolvers, I repeatedly asked, long before I realized (once again) that people chose their occupations at least in part to work on improving their ability to handle situations that baffle them.&nbsp; Yes, we conflict resolvers were, like therapists, &quot;wounded healers.&quot;&nbsp; <em>We had conflict issues!</em></p>
<p><strong>The Problem</strong></p>
<p>The problem that existed when I&nbsp;entered the mediation profession was this - the <em>pro bono </em>panel had been providing free mediation services to Los Angeles lawyers <em>for years. &nbsp;</em>There are a set of understandable and complex reasons for the initial &quot;decision&quot; to ask L.A. citizens (panel members are <em>not </em>necessarily <em>lawyers</em>)  to provide free mediation services on behalf of the Court to the organized bar. Those reasons, and the unresolved conflict that existed in 2004, are the same today as they were then - witness Jeff Kichaven's recent <a href="http://www.dailyjournal.com/index.cfm">Daily Journal</a> article excoriating the maintenance of this free service <em>once again, </em>this time on behalf of women and minorities.</p>
<p>Here's the intro to Jeff's article:</p>
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<p><em>August 13, 2010 DIVERSITY IN MEDIATION:HERE'S  HOW                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 By Jeff <span class="il">Kichaven</span></em></p>
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<p><em>There's a problem with mediation. The profession is almost lily-white,  and about as male as the Green Bay Packers. In our age of diversity,  this has to change. Here's how it won't, and also how it can. </em></p>
<p><em>   Most importantly, it won't change by itself. In mediation, as in other  professions, women and minorities are concentrated at the entry and  junior levels. In these economic times, it's harder for these newer  mediators to break in. The market is shrinking, not growing. Many of the  law firms that hire mediators have shrunk. Others have closed. We are  not in an economy where a rising tide of demand can lift all mediators'  boats. </em></p>
<p><em>   <strong>Worse, these newer mediators are increasingly being asked to work for  free.</strong> Court-annexed mediation programs - in which newer mediators work  for free, or for below-market rates in order to develop their  reputations - are growing. For example, on May 3, 2010, the Central  District of California announced: &quot;The ADR 'Pilot Program' is no more.  We have made the long overdue change of deleting the 'pilot'  designation. You will notice that the website and all forms now simply  reference the 'ADR Program.'...any civil case assigned to any judge may  be referred to the program, either at the discretion of the assigned  judge or at the request of the parties, pursuant to Local Rule 16-15.</em></p>
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<p><strong>My Panel Service</strong></p>
<p>As I said, I was grateful for the opportunities the <em>pro bono </em>panel offered me and for several years worked with the Court (and around it) as well as with the organized bar to find a solution with which everyone could be satisfied (the golden fleece of the mediation profession, after all, solutions by which my needs and your needs can be satisfied simultaneously).&nbsp; But the problem had reached the intractable, autistic hostility stage by the time I'd come on the scene and only band-aid solutions were entertained with any degree of seriousness by the Court and the organized bar.<strong><br />
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<p><strong>Who wants to give up a free service?</strong></p>
<p>After a couple of years of panel service, I quit because I found myself becoming, well, <em>bitter and irritable, </em>that my services were taken for granted by attorneys and clients alike.&nbsp; More importantly for the &quot;build your business through the <em>pro bono </em>panel&quot; crowd, lawyers who use the pro bono panel don't tend to <em>hire mediators. &nbsp;</em>They tend to use the <em>pro bono</em> panel.&nbsp; And their expectation of the caliber of mediators in Los Angeles is predictably low, the entire system having reached the self-fulfilling prophecy stage - the <em>pro bono </em>panel is filled with mediators who do not know their trade well; the LASC &quot;customers&quot;&nbsp;conclude that mediation is not worth the paper it's written on; and, their use of the <em>pro bono</em> panel confirms their existing low opinion of the profession, which supports their unwillingness to pay mediators for services they believe to be worth . . . . well . . . . <em>nothing.</em></p>
<p>In the meantime, I built a relatively healthy commercial mediation practice, which has suffered, along with all the professions, the effects of the recession.&nbsp; So I returned to the <em>pro bono </em>panel <em>because I&nbsp;needed the eggs. &nbsp;</em>I, like many mediators, <em>love </em>my trade.&nbsp; And I, like all trial lawyers, can't retain my great chops without practice.&nbsp; So here I am, once again serving the L.A. Superior Court and providing my services to local (and out of state) attorneys and their clients free.</p>
<p><em><img width="120" vspace="5" hspace="5" height="120" border="5" align="left" alt="" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/Kid_sketch_canary_small.jpg" /></em><strong>T</strong><strong>he Canary in the Mineshaft</strong></p>
<p><em>The Canary in the Mineshaft</em> - Everyone has <em>heard </em>this phrase but not everyone knows its origins.&nbsp; Miners used to actually <em>bring </em>a canary into the mineshaft with them.&nbsp; The canary, a delicate creature, would perish from toxic fumes before the miners had a hint that they were in danger.&nbsp; The miners didn't look at the canary's dead carcass and mutter beneath their breath about how weak the canary was - &quot;damn canary; couldn't take it; weak sister; let's muster on guys.&quot;</p>
<p><em>No, the miners got the hell out of the mineshaft.</em></p>
<p><strong>My Mineshaft Moment</strong></p>
<p>So I'm pretty busy now.&nbsp; I write two columns for Forbes.com - well, I blog for one (<a href="http://blogs.forbes.com/people/vpynchon/">On the Docket</a>) and write for another, the <a href="http://www.forbes.com/2010/07/29/job-loss-company-layoffs-unemployment-job-search-forbes-woman-careers-negotiation-skills.html">Forbes Woman, She Negotiates Column</a>.&nbsp; And I have a new business with a new business partner, Lisa Gates, <a href="http://shenegotiates.com">teaching women how to negotiate</a>.&nbsp; I have a <a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/consulting/">thriving consulting practice</a>; am being hired to <a href="http://www.scwla.org/pressrelease.asp?NID=103">keynote conferences</a> (rather than simply speaking to promote my mediation practice); and, have a book ready for publication (September I'm told) called <a href="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/2010/08/articles/abcs-of-conflict-resolution/advance-praise-for-a-is-for-asshole-the-grownups-guide-to-conflict-resolution/"><em>A is for Asshole, the Grownups' ABC's of Conflict Resolution</em></a>, which I&nbsp;actually believe will make me a little change.&nbsp; I'm also the new Chair of the first ADR Committee the <a href="http://wlala.org">Women Lawyers of Los Angeles</a> has ever had; will also be the new chair of the <a href="http://www.fedbar.org/Sections/Alternative-Dispute-Resolution-Section.aspx">Federal Bar Association's ADR Section</a> in the fall of this year; and, have, for several years, sat by appointment on the State Bar's Standing Committee for Alternative Dispute Resolution.</p>
<p>I'm not bragging.&nbsp; I'm just saying - in a down economy when your mediation and arbitration practice isn't filling your plate full-time, you enter what <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tina_Brown">former New Yorker editor Tina Brown</a> calls the &quot;gig economy.&quot;&nbsp;&nbsp; <em>And </em>I'm very very <em>busy </em>even though my busy-ness does not always mean that I am making money.&nbsp; My <em>pro bono </em>activities are now mostly confined to representing the interests of my fellow ADR practitioners and spreading the holy grail of interest-based collaborative negotiation, particularly for women, who I encourage to <em>stop undervaluing their services.</em></p>
<p>This is going to explain why I finally voiced my irritation at well-heeled attorneys (my <em>market </em>for goodness sakes) to whom I was assigned by the <em>pro bono </em>panel to help them settle a $10+ million complex multi-party anti-trust dispute (the details of which will be altered in their superficial detail to protect mediation confidentiality).&nbsp; None of these attorneys, by the way, knew that the <em>pro bono </em>panel is filled not only with attorneys, but also with non-attorneys who were highly unlikely to grasp the complex and sophisticated legal and factual issues in the case they asked asked a <em>pro bono</em> mediator to handle. <em>This</em>, I believe, should be a sign to the Superior Court that their attempts to educate the Bar about the panel need improvement.</p>
<p>If you've gotten this far, you'll likely be happy to wait for the conclusion tomorrow.</p>
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<p>They wanted that <em>other </em>woman who speaks on the topic of  women negotiating.&nbsp; You know the one . . . what's her name.&nbsp; Yes, that's  her.&nbsp; The annual meeting committee gave her a ring and she quoted them  $10,000 for an hour keynote.&nbsp; To be fair, an hour keynote takes all  day.&nbsp; First, you've got to travel, then stay over night, then, if you're  really <em>serious </em>about being of service to women lawyers, you  get up early and listen to the morning speaker, talk to your table  mates, find out what <em>their </em>challenges are, and, then alter,  ever so slightly, your noon keynote to deliver <em>exactly what this  particular unique group of women need to hear.&nbsp; </em>You stay <em>after,  </em>of course, to answer questions and <em>sell copies of your book</em>,  which is, after all, <em>your time, </em>the time you'd be spending  anyway spreading the good news that women can negotiate away the glass  ceiling and the pay gap and their kids' private school tuitions.&nbsp;  Because that's just how you roll.&nbsp; So it's never just an hour.</p>
<p>Still.</p>
<p>$10,000.&nbsp;</p>
<p>&quot;Did you negotiate with her?&quot; I asked.</p>
<p>&quot;The search committee didn't even try,&quot; said my  friend.&nbsp; &quot;They figured her price was <em>retail.</em>&quot;</p>
<p>I don't mind being second choice.&nbsp; That other woman, well, shoot, she  pretty much started the whole women-negotiating-revolution.&nbsp; I get it.&nbsp;  So I gave my quote and added, &quot;but I'm not a suit on a hanger at  Bloomies.&nbsp; You don't have to buy me retail.&nbsp; Remember some of what I  taught you about money and value.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;Uhhhhh, <em>make an aggressive first offer?&quot;</em></p>
<p>&quot;Well, yes.&nbsp; But that's not what I'm talking about here.&nbsp; I'm talking  about the <em>money is meaningless </em>lesson.&nbsp; You remember.&nbsp; You  can't eat or drink it.&nbsp; It won't actually <em>do </em>the surgery nor  build an addition to your house.&nbsp; Remember how it just <em>evaporated  overnight </em>right before George Bush left office?&nbsp; Remember how your  house was worth $500,000 on Monday and two fifty on Tuesday?</p>
<p>'Money has a value only because we <em>give </em>it value.&nbsp; It's only  worth what <em>we </em>say it's worth.</p>
<p>&quot;Uhhhh . . . . &quot;</p>
<p>&quot;O.K.&nbsp; I know.&nbsp; I talk too much and too vaguely.&quot;</p>
<p>Here's the deal.&nbsp; My price is X + expenses.&nbsp; That's negotiable.&nbsp; I  don't <em>tell </em>you it's negotiable because as soon as I do you'll  start negotiating!&nbsp; And since it was <em>me </em>who <em>taught </em>you  to negotiate, I'm not wild about bargaining with you.&nbsp; The desire to <em>teach  </em>is way to strong in me.</p>
<p>&quot;<em>I'm negotiable.&nbsp; So is that other woman, the one whose book  title is Ask for It!&nbsp; </em>And money isn't the only measure of value.&nbsp;  It would also be of value to me for your women's bar association to <em>sell  my book.&nbsp; </em>Of course I'll bring it with me to autograph and the  like.&nbsp; But you could also include it on your invitations.&nbsp; If someone in  your Bar Association blogs, they could give it a review.&nbsp; If you  haven't already pledged that you wouldn't give away anyone's email  address, you could give me your mailing list so I can stay in touch with  your members.&nbsp; Each of your members also has her own network.&nbsp; We could  brainstorm about ways that you could give me the benefit of my  pre-speech networking acumen to get more women to your convention.&nbsp; It's  <em>hard </em>to sell seats these days.&nbsp; How many people are you  expecting?&nbsp; What if we <em>double </em>that?&nbsp; Could you pay me my full  fee then?</p>
<p>&quot;None of us is a suit on a rack.&nbsp; And what we can do for one another  is so much greater than opening our wallets and shelling out a few  dollars that money sometimes seems just laughable.&nbsp; So let me say this  again.&nbsp; I know you've heard it before but I want to highlight it here  again.</p>
<p>&quot;I am a store of value and you are too.&nbsp; My network, my <em>social  capital </em>is a store of the store of value of each member in it.&nbsp; And  in that, you and I are both <em>rich.</em></p>
<p>&quot;Got it?&quot;</p>
<p>My friend, my student, is smiling, even though I can't see that over  the telephone.</p>
<p>&quot;I got it.&quot;</p>
<p>&quot;Now what was that offer again?&quot;</p>
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         <description><![CDATA[<p><strong>Do come visit us and consider enrolling in our </strong><a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/our-signature-course/"><strong>July 19, month-long, coached negotiation course here</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p>
<p>The blog, which is today offering prizes, <a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/blog/2010/7/9/our-open-house-and-five-houseparty-prizes.html">is here</a>.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.shenegotiates.com/our-signature-course/"><img border="5" align="right" vspace="5" hspace="5" src="http://www.negotiationlawblog.com/uploads/image/Open House.jpg" style="width: 304px; height: 303px;" alt="" /></a><strong>Testimonials</strong></p>
<p><em>It's the quality instruction, real world experience, and bevy of  resources brought to you by Victoria Pynchon that makes this course a  stand out. On the internet a lot of people purport to deliver courses  that will 'transform your life' or 'bring you to a new level in your  business,' but often prove to be nothing more than advertising vehicles  to enhance their lives and not yours. Victoria, with the support of that  fabulous woman behind the <a href="http://www.cravingbalance.com/">Craving  Balance</a> curtain, Lisa Gates, has created a real winner with this  course. And yes, it is transformative--it changes your beliefs about  what you're capable of doing and having, because you're given the  know-how and tools to make it happen.&quot; </em></p>
<p>Doreen Lima, <a href="http://wildlysuccessful.net/">Wildly  Successful Personal &amp; Professional Development</a></p>
<p>&nbsp;<em>&quot;I am embarrassed to admit that I had only a glimmer of the  science behind the negotiation process. And I had not given much thought  to how often we bargain every single day in every part of our lives.  Victoria has opened my eyes and helped me to fill a huge gap in my  business and life tools. The change in my attitude toward money was a  surprising bonus! I no longer dread talking about the fees I charge for  my services. I may never eagerly embrace negotiation, but I no longer  fear it and better yet, I appreciate and enjoy the process now. Thanks  to </em><em>She Negotiates, I am making great bargains and walking away  when I say it&rsquo;s the right time.&quot;</em></p>
<p>CaZ of <a href="http://www.writingbytes.com/">Writing Bytes</a> and <a href="http://www.2chicksathome.com/">2 Chicks at Home</a></p>
<p><em>&quot;Thank you so much Vickie and Lisa for raising my level of  awareness of the power of negotiation, for helping me re-examine my  self worth, and for encouraging me to stand up for my bottom line and  not be swayed by someone else's bottom line.&quot;</em></p>
<p>Lori Lacey, Corporate Learning Specialist and Coach</p>
<p><em>&quot;I learned more during this hands-on negotiating course than in  another higher-priced class I took. Victoria and Lisa helped me make  the emotional changes necessary to demand a higher value for my work,  and taught a step by step process for getting the most from sales  negotiations.&quot;&nbsp; </em></p>
<p>Linda Gryczan, Mediator</p>
<p>&nbsp;<em>&quot;Victoria and Lisa are an amazing team. Their individual areas  of expertise create the perfect blend and balance for understanding the  subtle nuances of the art and science of negotiation, and they do so in a  way that is fearless and authentic. Thank you for this incredible  opportunity. You've empowered me and I am grateful.&quot; </em></p>
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